(Closed) Lost scholarship + broke=wedding changes?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Oh no! Does your school do a probation period? I know my roomie was on a full tuition scholarship and she missed the GPA one semester. They didn’t take away her scholarship but she only had one semester to bring her grades back up. The same thing happened to my ex but he didn’t make the GPA 2 semesters in a row so they took it away.

I hope everything works out for you!!

Post # 4
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1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Who is in charge of your scholarship?  I was in a similar situation, and it was just one class bringing down my gpa.  I went to the dean of the honors college (which gave out my scholarship) and negotiated a probation semester where I had a chance to get my grades up. Could you talk to someone about this?  Maybe offer to retake a class you got a bad grade in to try for better?  Or even if they take it away for the fall, see if your gpa gets back up if you could have it again for the spring?

If it turns out that none of that works, you can still have a great wedding on a budget!  Were you and your FI contributing anything?  When I was in college I could make $3000 in a summer waitressing.  If the both of you did that, you could have $6000 by the end of the summer.  Then even working reduced hours during the next school year, you could each easily make $1000 a semester.  By next June you could have $10,000- more than enough to have a great wedding!  I’m doing a wedding that I love with a full dinner and dancing for 90 people for $7500.  I’m sure that, if worse comes to worse, you and your FI can make enough to have a very nice wedding, even if it has to be a little more modest than what you were expecting.  Also, if that seems like a rush, you could always push your date back to next August or so, and have two more months of working to save up.

Don’t panic.  You will get through this and you will have a beautiful wedding somehow.  And it’s far better that this happened now, while you still have over a year to figure out a new plan.  Think about if you had been getting married this June!  That would have been a problem….

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I guess my first question would be…if you go to Vegas, whose going to pay for your college education? If you elope to Vegas, there is a good chance that your mom won’t pay for your schooling then you will be out a wedding AND tuition. Is it possible to put the wedding off for a while longer until you get a handle on your grades and maybe work part-time to build up some savings of your own? Is it possible for your FI or his family to cover some of the wedding expenses so that your mom can focus on college tuition? There are some options here…it’s just a matter of you sitting with your FI and discussing all of the different scenarios. Good Luck!!

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  I really hope that you can work something out.  I know it isn’t ideal but can you get a federal loan?  They don’t accrue interest while you are in school and usually have lower interest rates than private student loans.  Also, check into going on a probationary period like others have suggested.  Is your wedding date after your graduation date?

Post # 8
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2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Since it is a GPA based scholarship then I assume it is with the school in some way. If they don’t have a probationary period or you used the automatic one already then petition for an extension. I used mine last semester but then brought it up. My guy had to have a 3.5 but never had his GPA that high but through the automatic probationary period and petitioning he kept the scholarship most of the way through his junior year.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Wow, I totally understand where you’re coming from.  I lost a full ride to my university through private scholarships and actually got really really depressed b/c of it.  Here’s the thing, there’s always a way.  Trust me, you could perhaps cut back on some things for your wedding or look at private scholarships instead a university sponsored.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Have you considered postponing the wedding until you are finished with school?  If you’re already having to avoid working in order to keep your grades up–and they are still not high enough–it seems like planning a wedding would be one more thing taking your attention away from school and bringing down your grades.  I know it’s hard to think about postponing.  However, if you’re planning to be with him for life, an extra year or so to get started is not that long.

Post # 11
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I took out loans for much of my education.  Student loans aren’t so bad, and they build up your credit well.  It’s not ideal, but it’s something to consider.

Post # 12
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7054 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had scholarships and student loans.  Worked ok for me and for my bil who’s a doc.

My idea is to go talk to your counselor at the college and ask her what to do.  But do appeal this situation and maybe see if one professor you’re friends with or have a good relationship with could alter or rethink a grade to make up that 0.2 difference?  I say negotiate with whomever you can to achieve that scholarship again.

Post # 13
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Can you pay for school yourself?

I paid my way through school using student loans and working.. I’m fairly certain you could do so using student loans (unless your credit is bad). Yeah, loans sucks.. but there’s a lot to be said for putting yourself through school on your own (and then suffering after 🙂

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