Post # 1
Dont worry, this isn’t a post about cold feet!
We recently postponed our summer wedding due to issues with the venue. Now we’re searching for a new venue for next year. I have tried to take everything in stride (it all happens for a reason, right?!), but I’m just not excited about planning a wedding anymore. I definitely WANT to get married to my fiancee, but the idea of “the wedding” makes me sad. My fiancee feels horrible when I tell him that I don’t want a wedding anymore because he saw how happy I was before we lost the venue. I just don’t know how to get that loving feeling back with my wedding! Has anyone experienced this before??
Post # 3
@livinglovely: I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Hugs. I would just take a little break from planning right now. You are sad because things didn’t work out how you planned, it will get better. Hugs
Post # 4
go to vegas:) have fun with it:) elope and just do it! then you can plan a reception when you get home, but then you will be married to the love of your life, and he will be happy and the pressure will be off. you can find a venue for an at home reception.
just a suggestion:)
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I think you’ll get the feeling back once you take a break and try to move past the first venue. Once you find a new venue, you’ll feel energized again. 🙂
Post # 6
@Ronneykay: Ha! I’ve considered just going to Vegas, but I think my mom would be crushed.
Post # 7
Give yourself some time. I’ve gone through ups and downs with wedding planning. Like PPs have said, once you take some time off and then find a new venue you’ll get back into the swing of things.
Post # 8
@livinglovely: Would you consider having a desitnation wedding (not eloping)? That way your mom wouldn’t be crushed.
Post # 9
May 2012 is a long way off. You still have plenty of time. Not as much as you’d like; but, the space is important and you don’t want to settle. When you find the place, the feeling will come back.
Call a few caterers and ask for the top 3 places they would recommend for a wedding in the area. Go on the website of caterers and look at their recommended venues. You don’t even need to pick up the phone and ask them for information on their choices. Jot down the places that speak to you and google it. Go from there.
Go to the library and use their computer to locate sites in the area. If you and he keep doing it from your home computers you’ll keep coming up with the same sites. Google does that intentionally. Just don’t log in.
I’d ask for help from my family to make some calls for me of places where they’ve been to weddings and loved. You can take it or leave it.
Everyone loves weddings and people will be happy to help.
Call historical sites; gardens; museums. You’ll get it back.
Post # 10
Dont feel bad about it one bit.
I actually have been saying ‘Im over planning a wedding’ for a while. The most important thing to me is getting married to my fiance, the rest are just timely details…
Once the day gets closer you will get that feeling back, maybe look at this as a time to focus on your relationship and preparing you and your fiance for marriage. The rest of the details will fall into place.
Post # 11
Take a little break from planning…regroup a bit…
Once you decide on a new venue, I bet your excitement will return. Think of it as a second chance to make your dream wedding even better than the first venue.