Post # 1
FI and I have invited quite a few people to our wedding, but we are fully expecting a small guest count. We are getting married on 4th of July weekend, an hour and a half away from the city (aka the boonies!), and 85% of our guest count is from out of town.
When we first began sending out the invites, we only sent out about 120 total. We have upped that to a little over 200 once we realized what we were up against. Our initial worry was having too many people at the wedding. Now we are wondering if we are even going to hit 100 (believe me, I will be thrilled with 75-80!!). I have my days where I wished we would have chose our other choice of venue which was in the city, and also picked a different weekend. It sucks, but hindsight! I am having those views right now.
I also have my days when I am thankful we will have a more intimate wedding. I was feeling like that last week 😛
Is anyone else going through or has gone through a similar situation? I’m curious to see who else has the same ordeal and what your outlook is.
Post # 3
I have 202 guests on my invite list, and my target number is 150-160. I have fears about not having too much on some days, other I fear that i’ll have too much. We have a food/beverage minimum to hit at my venue, so that’s why we have an added stress about hitting a minimum number of guests (about 140 i think). That being said, I would love to have an intimate wedding with only the people i am truly close to!
Post # 4
Our wedding was on July 3rd last year and the venue was in the middle of no-where too! We had mostly in-town guests, invited 130 and had 90 (including my husband and I, the DJ and 2 photographers) attend. At the end of the wedding, we were so happy with the number of guests that were able to come. We had time to visit with all of them, and it was great! We even got a big group picture of everyone who came to the wedding.
Edit: I wanted to add that we had a 100 guest minimum that we didn’t meet. We worked out a deal so we would not have to pay for the 10 empty seats (dinner, drinks, etc) and the compromise was that our reception would be 4 hours instead of 5. It worked out really well for us (most people had to leave early due to the distance to drive home).
Post # 5
@EvaBostonTerrier: That sounds perfect! I hope my numbers are similar, as some days my fear is that I will get overwhelmed by the amount of people. Who knows how I will feel tomorrow :). My parents will be happy that the wedding will cost less haha. We have a 150 person minimum to meet, but if it isn’t met then the price will increase $2/head which isn’t bad at all.
Post # 6
We invited 238 (including FI & I and vendors). We will pay a preset amount to feed 200 people and will have to pay a per person charge for any over that. Sometimes I worry that we will have too many and it’ll cost us a ton to feed everyone, but other times I worry that not enough will come and our huge venue will be empty, sad and lonely. I think number of guests invited/attending is always a concern, whether we worry about having too many or too little.
Post # 7
We sent out 145 invites and 95 people came. Our wedding was on a Sunday, and most people were only invited to the reception (only 30 people at the ceremony), so it was understandable that people didn’t want to travel all that way for a dinner.
I was very happy with our small guest list, I always wanted an intimate wedding. Plus, during the planning process money really freaked me out. Not only do you have to pay for food for all those people, but table/chair rentals, plate rentals, table cloths, favors, etc. all add up for everyone.
Post # 8
We sent out 172 invites and 66 people are coming. Everyone but one couple is out of town. Thought it would be closer to 84 (and was panicking b/c of reception room size), but 11 people who had previously told us they would be coming backed out. So, now we have a good size for our room, but I wish it was more–it’s mostly my family and FI’s family–very few friends, which makes me sad, but I guess caz it’s 8 hours away from “home.” OH well, what can you do?
Post # 9
@Angelique02: As of right now, we have 45 people coming with several people yet to hear from (deadline is June 10. hurry up and respond people!!). We may be right along with you in that number. Right now, I wouldn’t be surprised. Let me know how it all goes. I’ve heard nothing but great things about intimate weddings, and I hope those people are right! 😉
Post # 10
Previous posters seemed to have good turn outs but I think that can be a regional thing. Where I currently live it isn’t unusual to invite 528 people and end up with 120. Can you imagine? I really am wondering whether or not to cut our local guest list or just figure people will not be attending. The worst thing I am warned, 40% of guest list will RSVP yes and be no call no show. UGH! Hopefully you live in a better area for weddings.
Post # 11
Both our families our huge so we decided on a Friday wedding to cut down the guest count without actually having to not invite people. We are inviting 175 but expect about 120.