Loud children during ceremony?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q:  Have you taken the direct approach and asked the child’s mother to take him out of the church if he is unable to be quiet? Or, asked your FI to do that as it is his relative?

 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ugh I can’t stand parents who do nothing while their children behave like bebe terrorists. Could someone close to her, your FI perhaps? ask her or her husband or something to please take her precious nightmare outside if he is loud during the ceremony? Or have the ushers seat him near an aisle and allow your planner to referee. You could always play innocent if she gets offended.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

cls9q:  Honestly, I wouldn’t allow him there, especially with the past behavior issues. We’re not having any at ours (though, we’re childfree by choice and both hopelessly awkward and uncomfortable around kids) – not worth having the ceremy ruined!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

cls9q:  That sounds so frustrating!  We didn’t allow children at our ceremony.  Most of the kids who were invited to the wedding were under four.  I really didn’t want to worry about anyone being bored and acting out or crying.  I also work at a daycare, so I know how unpredicable even the best small child is!  So we a babysitter available in our hotel room with pizza, games, coloring books, and a movie.  I was worried the parent’s wouldn’t be okay with it, but they were all fine and I don’t think it kept anyone from attending.  There ceremony was maybe 20 minutes long?  So I think the kids/parent’s were separated for a total 30 minutes.  Kids were more than welcome to the reception though 🙂  

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q:  If neither you nor you FI are comfortable making your wishes known (what you would like them to do with the child if he acts out), then I guess you’ll just have to deal with the results.

Many couples include information with their invitations that there is a quiet room for children, should they be unable to be quiet during the ceremony. It’s really no big deal. Can’t you find someone to translate for you?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i was worried that kids/babies at our wedding would be disruptive. i had a catholic ceremony and most of the kids attend church regularly, so they’re already accustomed to sitting quietly for a hour, but a few were babies/toddlers at the time, so they were more unpredictable.

i didn’t hear a thing from any of the kids- not a cry, not a scream, nothing.

my church also had a “crying room” available in case anyone needed it. it had a window, so whoever was in there could still see and hear the ceremony without worrying about their child disprupting everything. does your venue have anything like that?

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess not inviting SIL’s sister isn’t an option? I didn’t invite in-laws’ siblings – I don’t consider them family – but I’m guessing this is a Mexican cultural thing.

Anyway, I think if the sister is forewarned then the wedding planner’s plan is the next best thing. You’ll just have to find someone to explain to her that it might happen. Perhaps SIL’s husband (that’d be your brother?) can handle it?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

cls9q:  That’s how I was raised, as well! If I started yelling in public, I’d get a swat on the wrist – my sister and I learned to behave very quickly! So many parents don’t do that anymore.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

cls9q: An oral invitation, by someone who has had too much tequila, doesn’t have to be followed up by an official, paper one. You can just explain that she was being over friendly and apologize that you don’t have the room for additional guests.   

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