Post # 1
My guy and I have been "unofficial" for quite a while now – we have a date in mind and planning/brainstorming is definately occuring but I don’t have a ring yet so we haven’t announced anything. In the past few weeks I’ve been getting definate signals that something may be in the works ring-wise (webpages looked at, money being squirreled away, ect…). Very exciting stuff. Added to all of this our six year (dating) anniversary is this coming weekend. Sounds good, right?
It did, until this weekend.
I just found out my cousin is getting married. I totally refuse to be that woman – the one who makes a huge announcement around the same time as a loved one’s wedding.
So my question is this… How do I let my guy know that if he’s thinking about proposing this weekend I’d rather he didn’t without saying it flat out and hurting his feelings or insinuating that he better have been planning to this weekend? Any ideas?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Ooooh, yikes. This is a toughie. My advice is to just let things happen if they’re going to happen. And then wait a few weeks to make the announcement to friends and family. As long as your cousin gets a little time to be in the limelight, it should be fine!
Post # 4
That is tough and I totally applaud you for wanting to let your cousin have some time in the limelight! I agree with Miss Mouse, let things happen, just wait to announce it for a few weeks.
My fiance and I got engaged around Christmas, and then his sister got engaged exactly 1 week later. I felt kinda like we didn’t get a chance to celebrate and everything because everyone had been waiting and waiting for them to finally get engaged (they’ve been dating for 6 years) and so we just got pushed to the wayside.
Post # 5
Hmm I’d say let everything happen in its own time. If you feel that uncomfortable you can definitely wait a few weeks or a month to announce your own engagement, or call your friend that got engaged and let her know. She may be so thrilled that you are engaged too and you can share in the experience. I know personally if this happened to me, I’d be thrilled!!
Post # 6
I would get e’d..wait one week past HER wedding and then let the joyous news ring out!!!
Give your relative her moment!
Post # 7
I second Bellenga. Let it happen naturally, but then explain to FI that you’d prefer to wait until after the wedding to share your sparkiling news!
Post # 8
I agree with bellenga- let the boy have his moment if he decides to, then share a secret for a few days. Could be lots of fun- cryptic emails, naugthy notes…hmmm…