Post # 1
Has anyone read the book Love & Respect? My fiance and I are reading it together over the phone (LDR — booo). It’s definitely been eye-opening, although I keep thinking that what I should really do is go back and re-read a lot of it once we’ve been married for a while! There are certain chapters where one of us is just like AMEN!! It’s really funny.
If you’re read it, what do you think? I know there are seminars and whatnot too. I think that would be really fun to go to. If you haven’t read it, do you know of any other good Christian marriage/devotional books? This is our second book we’ve read together since we’ve been engaged, and I want to keep it up! 🙂
Post # 3
@freckles4819: FI and I have done parts from the Love Dare. It’s really excellent. Also Things I wish I’d Known Before We got Married by Gary Chapman is a good book.
Post # 4
I really loved Sacred Marriage. The subtitle says it all– What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than happy?
I read it a few years ago on my own, and I should probably read it again with FI this time!
Post # 5
@joy2011 I LOVE it! I soooo want to read that now! What an awesome awesome and right perspective. I loved how our Pastors wife said it once… “Don’t just marry someone b/c you can’t see your life without them.. marry them b/c you know that you they need you to accomplish what God has for them” I know the my DH helps grow my spirit and maturity daily! so awesome!
Post # 6
@red_rose:That’s fascinating. We generally are tempted to just think of what makes us happy and makes our hearts go aflutter! Thanks for the recommendation!
Post # 7
Great book! My FI and I read it together, it will definaly be somthing that we read again in a few months. (once we are married)
Post # 8
I’m reading it right now! I bought it two weeks ago when DH and I had our first fight ever in our two years together, and I am amazed at the insight I’m getting from it.
Post # 9
Our adult Sunday School class is doing love and respect and I can’t wait! I have also really enjoyed The five love languages and the five langauges of apology. The latter is great info for those really big fights 🙂
Post # 10
Great suggestions! I love Sheet Music (biblical take on intimacy). I also am a fan of the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (secular, but relevant).
Post # 11
Ooh ladies you’re giving me awesome reading suggestions!
Post # 12
L & R changed my relationship 🙂 It truly is life altering…
Post # 13
I read love and respect, it simply was amazing! After your done reading it, the most important part is to make sure you remember what you read! My FH and I didn’t have any arguments for months, but when we did, it was short and sovled quickly.
Post # 14
Haven’t read that one – thanks for the suggestion. We’ve read Sacred Marriage, which is really good. And we’re reading a few for our pre-marital counseling. The first one was by John Piper and I did not like it, so I can’t even recommend that.
Post # 15
Our Sunday School class watched the Love & Respect DVD series, but I haven’t read the book. FI and I watched the whole series before we were even engaged and it was really good for our communication. I would also recommend “When Sinners Say I Do” by Dave Harvey to read together.
Two books that I think are life changing are “The Excellant Wife” by Martha Peace and “The Exemplary Husband” by Stuart Scott. I gave FI the husband book quite a while ago and it took him a long time to actually crack open the book (I felt a little guilty giving it to him after the “marriage book vs weight loss book” idea mentioned in Love & Respect). BUT… when FI started reading “The Exemplary Husband” it was as if he was a completely different person. Just the first chapter made such an impact on his life. All of a sudden, he realized some of his faults and he instantly sought to correct them and to seek forgiveness for ways that he had wronged people years ago. It was amazing. I thank God everyday for how he is working in his life.
I can honestly say the same thing about The Excellant Wife. The first chapter is so encouraging and really teaches you what a woman of integrity looks like.
Post # 16
We just started reading “Love for a Lifetime – Building a Marriage That Will Go the Distance” by Dr. James Dobson.
It’s been really great so far and really eye opening to how much DH and I want not just have a marriage that is in the 5 out of 10 that “makes it” but to be one of the 2 out of the 5 that have an intimate fulfilling marriage.
It’s been really good!
Another great little marriage book that I was given is The Love List. <– really simple but has some GREAT things to remember in staying connected with each other.
What a great thread!!!! I can’t wait to look into some of the other books that have been listed =D