- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hi bees ,
I need some advice here and maybe some words to calm me down from this stress that I am dealing with lately. I have met my great FH online almost 5 years ago and we have been visitng each other and dealing with distance for the past 4 years and we got engaged in 2009 and planning our wedding this sept 2011.
We are very much in love and he is the sweetest guy I met , we are both cant wait to end the distance and cant wait to get married and live our lives together. We wanted to wait until 2011 because I will be done with school and he will be done with school (well at least what we thought).
Here is our issues though. We are both in school now and only getting our 2 year degrees. I just turned 25 and only finishing with a 2 year becauase I changed major and also got in college late (had to deal with depression at highschool and after which caused my delay). I work part time at retail for now and looking for a better job out of retail. My fiance is 23 and turns 24 this summer, he is doing a 2 year degree as well and almost done with it. he works full time at a warehous company (his job was good only because they gave him time offs whenever to come and see me and they pay good).
Our plans was to finish school and get married , however, I will be done with school this spring , but he is having problems with taking required classes and might not finish until Fall of 2011. That means that he will be going to school while working and he wont be able to work fully 40 hours and wont make as much money as he is doing now. He is having trouble finding a job because he has classes in the mornings and night 2 days a week. His current job are okay with him leaving early on those 2 days and coming after classes in the mornings, but he is worried about finding a job that will work with that timings.
I will be moving to where he lives, the wedding will take place over there and his whole family and majority of the wedding guests live there, so we chose its best for me to move over there. With our plans , I will be moving this summer and have our wedding in Sept.
I’ve been having doubts about our marriage and how we will survive with no secure job specially on his side and no good income. I feel like things aren’t going as they should and I am specially freaking out at the moment.
We both live still with parents and we will be moving out first time and having our own place on our own this summer a month before the wedding. Our parents support us and been helping with the wedding and everything.I am having second thoughts about the life we will have..
We have already put deposts down for venue , photographer , videographer and ordered save the dates and asked bridesmaids and groomsmen and everyone knows about the wedding. We thought of calling the wedding off..and our relationship might end because of the distance as well…because thinsg just wont work…or at least what it seems like..
I dont accuse my fiance with anything , he is anyways younger than me and he cant be yet someone established and have a very good career while he is in school.
I need some advice here , should call off the wedding and do another two year or in my case I might go to an art school and do full 4 year and more likely will end our relationship, or should we stick to our plans even though it will be very hard?