- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I just wrote a whole post, pressed the wrong button and it disappeared 🙁
My fiance and I are spending Thanksgiving with my future in-laws. My Future Mother-In-Law called me the other day and was talking about Thanksgiving then moved on to Christmas, she said they will be going to Florida to spend it with her parents and can pick us up on the way since they will be driving. Then after they will fly to my Future Father-In-Law family’s which is out of the country and stay until New Years. I told her that I could not take off a week and a half from work to do all that traveling. So she said they would just pick up my fiance then.
My fiance and I have already discussed that we do not want to spend holidays apart anymore. We will be married next year and starting our own family and have already begun the alternating of parents’ houses for holidays (this is my 2nd Thanksgiving with his family, last year he came to mine). Apparently he has not said this yet to his mother which I’m not surprised but I could not say anything when she mentioned that! Is it normal for her to think we are going to go on vacation with them every Christmas? They always go away (last year Aruba, previously Dominican Republic, a cruise, etc). That doesn’t even give a chance to visit both families. Our parents live 3 hrs away from each other by car so it’s a little difficult if we wanted to do Christmas eve with one and Christmas day with another but it would be possible if they stayed home. None of her children are married yet so she has not had to experience the separation from her children while I am well aware of it as I have two older brothers who have been married for 7 and 3 years so they know all about splitting holidays. What can I do about this? Just have my fiance talk to her?