Post # 1
Hi again, fellow bees!
Does anyone else have a love/hate relationship with this website? On the one hand, I obsessively check out ideas, tips, tutorials, etc. And this I LOVE.
However, I often end up feeling inadequate once I try to do these projects that people say are “so easy,” and “anyone can do it.” And “I did this while watching a documentary on world peace.” lol
I consider myself an intelligent woman (computer-related undergrad degree, law school grad, passed the Bar exam), however I just keep messing up these DIY projects. For example, my latest fiasco came when I decide to DIY my own envelopes. Why, you may ask. Well, I decided that black envelopes are so chic and different. So, I went to Joann’s, got some black cardstock, and began the arduous process of making my own.
A few turned out really cute, but I realized that it’s so time-consuming that it doesn’t make sense. Also, if they’re not going to be perfect, I don’t want to send them out.
So…now I’m back to plain white envelopes, to which I’m going to affix clear mailing labels (don’t clutch your pearls, ladies, I know how “not done” using labels is). The fact of the matter is this: I enjoy doing crafty things, but my aspirations are much higher than my skill level.
Does anyone else ever feel inadequate reading these boards? I can’t be the only one…or can I?
Post # 3
I’m somewhere in the middle! I love crafting, but my skill/patience level is fairly low. I am very good at cutting things out and gluing them together, haha!
I intentionally pick projects that I know I’ll be able to handle (making tissue paper poms, embellishing escort cards, painting signs to direct our guests, designing – BUT NOT PRINTING – our paper products). That keeps me from getting too frustrated, and I still get to have a creative outlet.
Post # 4
@Crindy: Thanks! Good to know I’m not the only one. I go into each endeavor with the best of intentions, laser-like focus, and as much patience as I can muster. After a few hours, I feel nauseous and like I’d rather be skinned alive than continue. I MAY have a few issues. LOL
Post # 5
Oh yes. I am actually pretty crafty but I didn’t hand sew my invites with the tears of unicorns and cloud fluff either, I ordered them online. Meh. They got the information to people so I think they worked fine. So even if Martha wouldn’t approve, it worked for me.
And the etiquette police make me hysterical sometimes too. Some social circles function differently and thus was is a huge faux paus to you is what everyone is someone else’s circle does so don’t berate them for it!
Post # 6
Nope, I’m not DIYer. I don’t have an attachment to making things a “personal” statement by using my hands. I can also using my fingers to buy it LOL. Anything that I end up DIYing is soley a matter of cost savings. It has got to be a signifcant savings in order for me to DIY. But if I think that it will take too much time or effort, than I’ll glady pay a premium. I totally believe that time is money and I’d rather not waste time.
Post # 7
@chasesgirl: The fact that you “didn’t hand sew my invites with the tears of unicorns and cloud fluff” makes you a failure in the eyes of some bees. However, it makes you my hero.
@bklynbridetobe: Totes agree.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Oh, I had all sort of aspirations for all these fantastic DIY. But then I realized:
1. Most of the guests wouldn’t notice (flowers on the chairs at the ceremony? Skip!)
2. I didn’t have the time (we had a short engagement), and
3. I didn’t want to have a breakdown before the wedding.
So-I carefully picked my DIY battles. I’m a former graphic designer, so the invites/stationary pieces were a no-brainer to DIY. We did DIY flowers, but I had a MOH who had done them for hers and one other wedding, and two other helpers-no way I could have done those myself.
I *was* going to do faux calligraphy (lightly printed then write over)- didn’t look so hot. So, I hand wrote about ten (older guests), and everyone else (gasp!) had theirs addressed by my laser printer, and the etiquette Gods just had to deal with it. 😉
When I had another “Oh, I could do…” idea, I just looked at Ryan, and he helped keep me in check.
Post # 9
Girl, I wouldn’t even attempt most of these things some of these brides do! Anything I touch turns into a MESS! And, I, too, have a doctorate. Maybe it’s just not in our blood!
Post # 10
I love this place but I also know my limitations.
Post # 11
@rebwana: Oh God! I think I just found my new Facebook profile pic!
@MsAmandaAnn: I’ll have to compensate for not being very crafty by being completely flawless on the big day.
@Jer72: I thought I didn’t really have many limitations. Lesson. Learned.
Post # 12
I hate it when someone says, “anyone can do it” because I am not just “anyone”… LOL And it’s NOT easy! ARGH! I get you 100% But I torture myself by looking at them anyway!
Post # 13
@happyface: Right? I start off every day saying “I’m not going to look at a single WB DIY post today.” By 9 a.m., I’m already totally engrossed/planning/dreaming. lol
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I am…gasp…using clear labels on my envelopes as well. I have terrible handwriting, I refuse to ask a friend to do it for free, and I refuse to pay somebody to write on an envelope that will just go in the trash. No need to feel inadequate. Spend your time and energy on stuff that really will be noticed. I ordered my invitations online from Vistaprint for $27; much better than the hours I slaved over 100 DIY invitations the first time I got married.
Post # 15
@beachbride1216: I used clear labels on white envelopes, added a cute little pink heart outlined in black on the return address labels (our colors are pink, black, and white), and called it a day. The reality is NO ONE we’re inviting will notice, or care.
Post # 16
@KelannaDC: I am an attorney with an MA as well. You don’t have to feel inadequate. Start your project in front of some people who are good at “arty” stuff. Mess it up and make sure you have a completely helpless look on your face. Someone will help and the project will get done.