Post # 1
So our wedding shower is in a week. I can’t lie….I’m awfully excited! I’ve never been the “pretty girl” of my family, but more of the ugly duckling. I’m one of the youngest and definitely the non-slimmest…so to have a party thrown in honor of my upcoming nuptials makes me so giddy! So…I’ve been tweeking my registries as I realized that I forgot key elements (like kitchen utensils, drapes, glasses….) and I’ve been living off of unmatching, chipped, broken items that have lasted me since college days. So…why do I feel so guilty? My sister keeps letting me know how unacceptable some of my items are (too pricey….are you sure you need that?). But I went out of my way to price check both registry sites to get the lowest price for the best quality. I only registered for the necessities, not leather furniture of crystal or fine china. I’m a simple girl and I know I’ll never use fancy stuff. I just feel greedy like I’m asking everyone to shell out cash for me….and yet….I know I did the same for everyone else at one time or another. I’m just about the last cousin to get married in a long line of Italian family members. Is it wrong to just enjoy this part? I’m getting married in less than 4 months and just want to reap the benefits for all my prep work for a little while. Anyone…?
Post # 3
No. Register for what you want.
Post # 4
I say register for what you want and what you know you’ll need – if there are things on there that are too expensive for some people, they simply won’t purchase those things
Post # 5
@teacherin200829: Absolutely enjoy it. It’s your time to be the center of attention and be shown love. It’s a really wonderful feeling. I’m grateful for all of the gifts we received big and small. It really got us ready to live in our new condo together and start our life together.
Post # 6
I second carrieknitscake. You (hopefully) only get married once and your registry is simply a helpful list of suggestions for the convenience of your guests. Nobody is forcing them to buy off the registry, although it’s encouraged. What they give you is totally up to the gift giver.
But in general, this is your wedding! Enjoy your day and don’t let your sister’s comments get you down.
Post # 7
Your sister sounds a little jealous? Maybe it’s hard to watch someone else be the center of attention and get presents?
My personal opinion is that it’s best to register for things at various price points because people like options. It’s completely up to them what they buy.
Just enjoy your time and ignore the comments 🙂
Post # 8
When FI and I went to Register they told us to register for whatever we want. How many times does a couple get to go to a store and pick out what they want and have others buy it for them… I love our Registry, I mean we have some expenive things on there, but it is somethings that we do need since we are starting from scratch.
Post # 9
You aren’t greedy at all! I put like $500 worth of luggage on my registry, and you know what…if someone doesn’t want to buy it for me, then they won’t, and they’ll either get something not on the registry or they’ll give money or something. It’s really not something to feel guily over! You’re not beating anyone over the head telling them that they HAVE to buy everything for you. You didn’t put a ferrari or something on there for goodness sakes…lol Enjoy it!!!!
Post # 10
Enjoy it! It isn’t greedy at all. I hate to go to showers of people who aren’t registered. I am not a creative gifter by any means!
Post # 11
enjoy your time, it is all about you right now!!!!!! Not greedy at all!
Post # 12
I felt this way at one point but quickly got over it. Enjoy this time and don’t let comments get you down. If your sister doesn’t like the things you registered for she can get you a gift card so you can contribute it to something YOU want!