- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I can’t mention this to any of my usual social media channels so I’m coming to the Bee. My boyfriend lost his job due to downsizing back at the beginning of February. He’s in his early 40s and this ist he first time he’s had to look for a job basically since he was 19. And he’s having such a tough time. There aren’t many prospects for his former career in radio in the city we live in so he’s trying to change careers. He’s had few interviews and put out so many applications. I know his confidence is completely shot and I don’t know what to do other than support him 100% (which of course I do).
He had a phone interview today for an awesome job and he’s convinced that it didn’t go well. I asked him why and he has no real answer for why. The people interviewing him didn’t say anything and he was happy with all his answers. He was worried because they said the interview would be about an hour and it lasted about 40 minutes but I told him not to worry about that. I’ve had loads of interviews over the years and I think maybe one lasted as long as they said it would. In my experience (with jobs I’ve gotten, not gotten and come close to getting) 40 minutes seems good.
I’m so worried about him. I told him to look in other cities although he doesn’t want to do that for a variety of reasons. He worked away from his hometown for 15 years and spent the last 5 of those trying to get a job back here. And he says I’ll be miserable away because I’d be worried about my 77 year old mother (I’m an only child and my father passed away years ago). I told him I’ll do whatever he needs me to do and we’d figure it out. I recently lost my dream job although was lucky enough to get something else with the same employer due to union bumping rules. I like my new position but am not that connected to it as a career. I know he’s getting to the point that he’s worried about having to sell his house and its killing me.
Any advice would be welcomed. Also I needed somewhere to get all this out. We want to start our future together and this is completely holding us back 🙁