Post # 1
Kind of bummed when maybe I should be happy? Lol We invited 165 guests to our wedding and we only will be seating 120-125 range. Couple reasons which are all completely understandable:
1.) I have a HUGE family, 7 aunts/uncles all with at least 4 kids on one of my sides. I gave my aunts and uncles the options to bring the “younger” cousins; between the ages of 13 and 17. They all declined to bring them because they would rather have a night out and be able to enjoy without entertaining; dropping one side of the family from 60 to 47 attendees.
2.) Some people that I really thought would be going declined because it was too much on a Friday night and/or they have other plans.
3.) Almost all of the “single” guests that were invited opted not to bring a guest.
I am thinking I should be happy because obviously this is cutting our final payment down drastically; at least $2,500.00 but kind of bummed because I was excited to celebrate with everyone. We also cut out all work people and some of the friends (ones we are not as close too) because we thought we couldn’t afford it; I would have definitely invited them knowing this but with the wedding in two weeks I feel like an invite now to them would look like a”pitty” invite and not what I want after explaining our huge family for a year lol. Anyone else run into something like this? Advice appreciated as always!
On a plus note I am now taking that some of those funds and paying for the bill for all my girls hair and makeup as an additional “thank you” because they have been so awesome and gone above and beyond financially and emotionally for us over the past year. Didn’t think I would have the extra $500 but now I do = )
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
That’s pretty normal turnout based on the number you invited, especially for a Friday night wedding. 125 people is not a small wedding by any means.
Post # 4
That’s the size I’m hoping for! We’re inviting around 150 and if we get under 120 I’d be thrilled!
I’m sorry that some people won’t be there to celebrate with you though…I’m sure they’ll be there in spirit!
Post # 5
@jhey83: These are a normal tunrout rnage for the amount of invites you sent 🙂
A low count would be less then half of your invited list. You guys sis good -and 120 people is still a *lot* of people.
Technically a small wedding around here is usually 50 people or less.
Post # 6
@jhey83: you won’t disappear from the face of the earth after your wedding. i’m sure you will be able to spend time with folks at other events. don’t sweat it and enjoy the extra cash in your pocket. i’m praying for this to happen.
Post # 7
Thanks Ladies! I think I have such a large family only seeing some of them at an event is weird for us lol. I know we will still have a blast and it will give us more time with more people = ) Can’t believe it’s only two weeks away; I think everything makes me emotional lol I never really looked at the “etiquette” as to how many to expect from the amount of invites sent out; thanks for that info! and congrats ladies!
Post # 8
@TaurianDoll: Thank You! And thats a very good point!
Post # 9
That sounds like a good number to me. I am sure your bridal party will appreciate the gesture. If it really bothers you, you could always reach out to your uninvited friends and invite them. I am sure that they understand that you had to accommodate family first.
Post # 10
yeah, i think that’s actually a good amount of people. my husband and i both come from big families too, so if it makes you feel any better, we invited a little over 300 and 226 accepted. out of those people, 193 showed up. all that money i spent on food and stuff for the no-show’s could have gone towards my honeymoon or i could have invited my friends who i had to cut in favor of family :/
Post # 11
@lilchicana: Wow. I am so sorry to hear that; can’t imagine the frustration. I hope you had a wonderful night regardless and congrats!
Post # 12
Wow, that still sounds like a large wedding to me.
I am planning a much smaller one myself (it’s just what I prefer). I guess it’s all a matter of perspective!
Post # 13
That sounds about average to me. I’m inviting about 115 and hoping for about 80!
Post # 14
thats what I’m hoping for. so, i’d say this is best case scenario! saved you some money. go do something nice with the extra found wiggle room in the budget!
Post # 15
I think it’s a pretty average response rate, and now you have extra cash!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
That’s a good turnout! I invited 158, so similar invite count to you. Right now I still have about 60 no-replies with the RSVP deadline tomorrow (AGH), but am expecting the final total to be around 120.