Post # 1
Mine will be a fairly casual wedding. No bridal party, no veil, no formal “first dance”, no garter, etc. The reception is a cocktail reception. My question is in reference to the cake…. I don’t want the whole party to stop and watch me cut a cake, so what DO we do? Has anyone else not really cared about the cake cutting? Do we gather our parents and do it quietly? Or just tell the venue at some point to start cutting? I don’t hear very often of people not interested in a cake cutting, so I don’t really know what my options are. (I almost said “no big cake” but it’s included in the venue price, so, there will be a big, fun cake.)
Post # 3
Why not do the cake cutting right after you make your grand entrance, when all eyes will already be on you? The staff can then take the cake to the side to either cut or just be a decoration until it’s time for desserts.
Post # 4
@rurahrah: I’m gonna keep an eye on this thread because I’m in the same position. We’re having a cocktail party reception also but a 3 tiered cake, and I’m not sure what to do about the cake cutting either. There won’t be any venue staff helping us, so my FI and I will have to cut the cake for everyone, I’m just not sure when or how to go about it, like you mentioned.
Post # 5
Do you care about cutting the cake together? If so, just do it — whenever you do, it’ll flow well with the party, I’m pretty sure. If you don’t care, just have the caterer cut it when it’s about time for dessert.
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to have a cake cutting. You could have the cake out for display and have the caterer cut it up at some point during the night. Hardly anyone will miss it.
Post # 7
We’re also having a very casual wedding. I think we’ll just announce that now it’s time for cake and that the bride and groom are going first. Well, we’ll have my BIL do it. He’s going to be the one announcing speeches etc.
Post # 8
No cake cutting, no bridesmaids, no best man … all very casual here!
Late wedding ceremony and pretty much straight into evening reception with a hot buffet. Cake is going to be a cup cake tower which I hope the guests will tuck into for dessert.
Post # 9
We had a DW 3 weeks ago in the Bahamas and this Friday is our at home reception. It will be beach-themed & casual – 50 people, catered BBQ, open bar, a DJ all in a nice venue – a large room with plenty of patio doors to an outdoor deck at a state park marina overlooking the lake. I decided to have a sheet cake and asked the caterer to cut the cake for people to serve themselves about 1.5- 2 hours into the party. I’ll ask the DJ to let me make an announcement that cake & coffee are available. And that’s it!
Post # 10
@abbie017: I did this and it was great. There was about 1 min of attention to get pictures and then we sat down to eat.