Post # 1
please excuse, I’m in the middle of a pity party…
Is anyone else feeling/have felt the way I’m feeling now??!??
Originally, my wedding was going to be small–30-50 family members at my family cabin. When my momzilla got involved, it quickly turned in to 130-150 people at a ‘rustic’ venue in my hometown. Now that the guest list has grown so much, I feel like I should be putting in more effort than my previous plan had called for. Hopefully this will be a one time event, and with a lot of my friends getting married in the near future I’d like to have mine stand out and feel different.
Lately, it seems like every aspect of my wedding– the dress, the details–everything is just plain boring! I think I am half traditional/half non. I like ‘fun, pretty, original’ ideas. I want the details of my day to stick out in people’s minds as different or clever. I look on the boards and see these girls with these gorgeous dresses and amazing centerpieces & decorations and clever ideas–and I have a hard time thinking of things that fit my budget and stay cohesive with my venue and what I have already.
I’m just at such a loss because planning isn’t fun when you feel like everything is so drab. When I express my feelings to FI, he is basically like ‘oooookkkkk, so what?’ (I dont know what else I would have expected from him) Ok, I think I’m done.
Post # 3
🙁 I’m sure your ideas are great! I know what ya mean though, we’re the first of our friends to get married, so we wanted to make sure no one forgot about it! Try to think of things that are pretty…unique? We had karaoke at our reception, and yes it was a HUGE hit! But of course that’s not for everyone.
Why do you think your wedding is boring so far? We had a very limited budget, but honestly you can have a great wedding on a small budget! We used real flowers that were $. 50 each from WHole Foods (they’re daisies, so they were cheap anyway) and used old wash tubs to be the drinks in. Our reception was outside, with lots of twinkle lights.
Post # 4
Wow, I think I feel the same way. My guestlist isn’t growing…well I pray it isn’t shrinking. But I keep thinking I need to be doing something more than I have done. Something fantastic…idk. But I also think both of us are getting to the final stages of stuff and probably have been planning for awhile. I now I have been for a year. I think I have just gotten bored with everything. I am ready to get married already!
Post # 5
@greeneyes_320: How long have you been planning? Is it that the planning has been so long in the process that you might have just gotten tired? Do you have friends that like wedding stuff or a wedding designer/planner? Those are the types of people that you should talk to and brainstorm with. I think some people are just more creative and if you want something more wow, then you just need to talk to the right people for encouragement.
I’ve always been a very creative type so everything I think of is usually different or executed in a different way, but then I have a lot of simple friends too. For them, it is a lot of work to think outside the box, but they don’t care to have that something different.
If you want to post some of your wedding ideas, maybe we could help you brainstorm and make it stand out, if that’s what you’re looking for. 🙂 You can message me if you need any particular ideas. I love helping with stuff.
Post # 6
Thanks bees! I really appreciate the encouragement. I feel like I have NO ONE to talk to about wedding stuff that really cares. I’m pretty much planning this on my own.
I think I am getting really sick of just planning in general– I’ve been doing it since January- which maybe isn’t really that long; but I”m someone who likes to get everything done so I’m not freaking out at the last minute. I have most of my major decisions over with. It’s just these little deets that are driving me up a wall.
@sillykar: I’d love to bounce ideas back and forth with you. I can PM you later with what I’ve got so far.
Post # 7
You know what.. I just got married. And My wedding was about 200 people. I always thought I wanted to share the day with everyone I possibly could. After the wedding (2 weeks ago), I am realizing it was way too big. The number of guests ruined it for me. I had ABSOLUTELY NO FUN AT MY WEDDING because so many people were pulling me in different directions. I didn’t even have a decent conversation with anyone the entire day UNTIL I RAN AWAY FROM MY WEDDING to the pub upstairs with a few close friends. It was completely awful. If you want a small wedding, PLEASE hold firm. I am regretting so much about my wedding right now, and the number of guests is one of the biggest things I regret. I would hate for you to feel the same way I am feeling!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’m sure your wedding is going to be great!! Thing is, pretty much every idea is recycled. I know that I had lots of nice details for my wedding but I didn’t really think of any of them myself, just took them and modified them from other weddings…So basically, don’t sell yourself short, I’m sure if you’re adding in thoughtful details, people will notice and no one’s going to compare or think that they are boring bc most people don’t stalk wedding blogs all day long like we do!