Post # 1
Hi, all. Hopefully I am posting this in the right spot! I am getting married Sunday, June 9th, and looking for a spot for a rehearsal dinner for that Saturday. My question is, do you think it is rude to have a rehearsal lunch instead of a rehearsal dinner? From the research I have done, it would be a lot cheaper, and it would be much more likely we could rent a private room. What is the etiquette on this? I am expecting lots of out of town guests, so I don’t know if this would be rude or not.
Post # 3
I think a lunch would be a great idea and I don’t think it is rude. I think it will give you more time to relax on Saturday night before your wedding on Sunday too!
Post # 4
If you were doing it for lunch on Friday, it might put an extra burden on your guests, but I don’t see any reason not to do so on a Saturday. I think you’ll appreciate all the extra rest & relaxation time you’ll have instead of staying out late! Great idea!
Post # 5
I think it’s perfectly fine!
Post # 7
@chocolatecoveredstrawberry: We have to pay for the rehearsal dinner ourselves and I didn’t even THINK to do a lunch… thanks for the idea!!
Post # 8
We are probably having a rehearsal lunch also because we have a lot of oot guest and we prefer to host a welcome reception that evening instead of a rehearsal dinner. I think it’s fine it doesn’t have to be a dinner.
Post # 9
I agree with prior posters. I think it’s perfectly fine, as long as the rehearsal and the meal are adjacent to each other in that day’s schedule so that participants would go directly from one event to the other.
Post # 10
It the rehearsal is on a Saturday, it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.
Post # 11
I would make it a true lunch (no later than 1pm) and not later like 2 or 3. People (including you) probably have a lot to do the day before the wedding, If it is too late in the day, it will really cut into people’s days.
Post # 12
Sure! Lunch sounds great. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Great idea. Are you planning on inviting all of your OOT guests to the lunch? You’re not “required” to (despite what my MIL tried to tell me.)
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Atrium at the Curtis Center
We ran into the same problem, and are having a rehearsal lunch on Saturday from like 1-4. No one has voiced any complaints and most are pretty happy to still have their Sat night free!
Post # 15
Thanks for the input!
@chrystie: No problem! Most places I have looked have similar menus for lunch but it is so, so much cheaper. Plus, personally I feel like it doesn’t look as cheap if you don’t spring for alcohol for a lunch.
@rebwana: That is a huge debate going on. About 75% of guests are technically out of town- and most of the rest are still in the bridal party or immediate family! If we invited them all it would be like having a second wedding reception. I am really not sure exactly what to do in this situation.
Post # 16
It wouldn’t bother me at all! 🙂