(Closed) Lurker- Finally deciding to introduce

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Welcome to the hive! So glad you decided to jump in!

Post # 4
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas


Post # 5
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Welcome to the hive! I didn’t join until AFTER I was engaged (I was so excited so I was googling randomly and found it…best thing that EVER could have happened to me planning wise…the hive is home!) but I wish I would have! There are lots of waiting bees and TONS of support for them here as well ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 6
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Welcome! Mr. S and I were together for a long time and both knew we were looking towards marriage before the proposal, but I still thought it was important that we not only were on the same page, but knew about how far down the other was before turning it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So I just asked him one day what his general timeliine was, and we both agreed that we would want to get married before I finished grad school… that narrowed it down enough for me!

Post # 7
1106 posts
Bumble bee

Welcome!! Feel free to hop on it!

Post # 8
101 posts
Blushing bee

welcome!!! i think you should definitely have a chat with him! just say:

“Love you, want to marry you, you feel the same, so when: 2 years, 5 years, etc?”

except maybe a little more eloquently and gently… but it sounds like you have the right idea!

Post # 9
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Welcome welcome welcome! There are tons of waiting bees. I lurked here for a good month before I started chatting and then about 2 months of waiting around on Weddingbee I got my e-ring so here’s hoping for you :o) Even if it takes longer you know he’s the one that’s what matters!

Post # 10
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Welcome! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Welcome to the Hive!  I think we all start there!

Post # 12
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Welcome to Weddingbee! 

Post # 13
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Welcome to the Hive!! ๐Ÿ™‚ Lets see I lurked for a couple of weeks also before actually even signing up cant remember how I found it but I am definitely glad I did. I basically asked my Fiance where do you see this going randomly one day and it opened up a conversation. I do this every now and then to get some reassurance that we are still headed towards the same goal! Recently, I asked about a timeline and mainly because my father will be out of country next year and I will not get married without him. It was nice to hear that Fiance wants this year just like me. I am now just waiting for the ring though! I would just say be open about it but dont pressure and also be open on what he could say.

Post # 14
604 posts
Busy bee

HIII!! I love the title of your post (Lurker) ha

Post # 15
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hi and a big Welcome!

The man and I didnt really start seriously talking about engagements and a timeline for getting married until around our 4 year anniversary… that was about 7 months ago.

My suggestion would be to wait until he says something again eg “i want to be with you forever” etc… then maybe subtly steer the conversation around to getting married.

Also handy to exclaim how some friends are booking places (best idea if you actually have a friend/co-worker getting married) and you need to book like a year to 18 months in advance. Men just dont seem to realise this stuff i dont think?

In my experience, if he is still a bit new to the whole idea of getting married then it might be a good idea to not push it too much!

Good Luck!

Post # 16
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hi and welcome to the hive! I just recently joined and I love it!

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