Post # 1
This is my first post and I wanted to let you know I’ve been lurking for about a month or so. Why? Well, that’s when my boyfriend of 7 years (officially last weekend) asked me to draw up some ring designs for him. A few weeks before all this, we were hanging out with my brother and his Fiancee when the guys went out to get some more provisions. Not having a father, I’m wondering if BF used that time to ask for my brother’s blessing? I hadn’t thought about them going out like that together until SO asked me for the ring designs. Brother and SO get along really well but have never hung out just the two of them before. In years past, I did tell my SO that asking for my brother’s blessing would be important to me but he seemed to shrug it off. The thing is, I completed the drawings he asked for, about 5 or six sketches, but he hasn’t really looked at/moved my sketchbook from the coffee table. Do you think this might actually be happening after so long or no?
To be honest I had thought we werent going to get married after the fifth year of dating and had resigned myself to that. Marriage was never the end goal for me I guess. Now that I think it’s going to happen by the end of the year, I’m getting overexcited. I think I just need someone to talk me down and tell me to chill haha. Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
Hi and welcome out of ‘lurkdom’ how old are you both? it sounds promising but I would go into this with no expectations. Sometimes guys can bring up stuff about marriage or rings but not necessarily act on it asap. You know him better than us. Does he do what he says he will? Or is he the all talk no action guy. If he’s consistent about following through on things in general you could very well be an engaged lady eventually 🙂 in the meantime I would play it cool, and look over Mr. Bees plan in the sticky section.
Post # 4
I don’t believe in timelines, but I do think everyone should KNOW what’s going on in their relationship. For your own sanity, consider talking to him about whether he is looking for a ring, would like more of your input, and what the time frame he’s currently considering is.
Post # 5
Thanks Nicki and LeTigre!
I should have added some more specifics. I’m 27 and he’s 35 dating for 7 years living together for 4. SO does normally act on things he says he going to do fairly quickly but will put things off if nagged about them too much. I tend to be overbearing when I’m excited which is why I need to reign it in.
Oddly enough after year 5 I was doing Mr. B’s list without knowing it! I’ve been going on more trips with my girlfriends, volunteering, etc. than I did when we were first dating. Mr. Bee is wise because I haven’t thought about any of this in so long I’ve been having so much fun!
LeTigre I think you’re right about discussing timelines but feel like I missed my moment when he asked for the designs in the first place. We’re going to dinner on Saturday for our anniversary so I’ll bring it up then. I actually would like hime to wait a few months until after my brother’s wedding. Thank you.