Post # 1
I have something weighing on my mind about my wedding reception. I am a bit of a boozehound (nothing close to an alcohol problem, but recreational drunkenness happens from time to time). Now I know I would like a fairly steady flow of alcohol for my guests at my reception because that is FI and I’s kind of scene (nothing trashy, but you know… “A wedding! I love weddings, drinks all around!” – jack sparrow).
However, I am a bit concerned that I may end up drinking a bit too much at my reception, and I’m wondering how you bees have gone about pacing yourselves in such situations? We are having a fairly large guest list so I know there will be a ton of mingling. I tend to sip drinks, alcoholic or otherwise, when I’m nervous (kind of a social anxiety involuntary tick… i think i drank about 40 diet cokes on FI and I’s first date) and i’m worried I’m going to accidentally keep sipping champagne until I’m inadvertantly tanked. I also know there’s going to be a lot on my mind and I’m worried I’ll forget to keep track of how many I’ve had, or forget to sip water between.
What do you ladies do to keep a clear head, without totally forgoing the alcohol?
Post # 3
I seriously had no time to drink…like at all. I had a few beers, a couple shots and thats about it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I will also say I had no time to drink at my first wedding either. If you must slow down then: First, stick to lower alcohol content drinks like beer and wine. Second, trade off so that for each alcoholic drink you drink, you are drinking a non-alco beverage (water is preferred since soda will cause your body to process the alcohol faster.) Third, if you are really worried put someone else (you trust!) in charge of keeping track or setting limits for you (I time myself when I am somewhere that I need to slow way down so that I am only drinking one alcoholic drink per hour.)
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@rawrrrrr: I have totally thought about this because I definitely tend to just slug drinks until the party’s over… and this party will probably go to like 3 am… My FI is also slightly aware / concerned that I have the potential to overdo it that night. I can’t imagine anything worse than getting hammered at my own reception! Yikes! I’m sure a bunch of our friends will be, but not me hopefully.
So, I’m going to have a couple drinks while I get ready, a couple with dinner, and then switch to water or iced tea. Then reassess after a couple hours. I’m going to keep it a constant goal that I don’t want to get drunk. (Which is different from other people’s weddings, when I’m like “Yahoo free drinks, I’ll have seven!”) And ask my hubby to be to keep an eye on it too. Hope that helps…
Post # 6
Why not enlist the help of your MOH and bridesmaids? Ask if they’ll be willing to help keep an eye on things and frequently switch your drinks out for water.
Post # 7
Spacers! You’ve gotta drink waters in between your real drinks, especially to stay hydrated during all that mingling.
ETA: Also, I’m thinking that fear alone should keep you sober? I definitely did not want to be drunk in front of all my guests at the most expensive party I’ll ever throw.
Post # 8
@lolot: omg we are drinking twins.
but i love your idea: maybe I’ll make it a rule that I can only have drinks not at the reception or while seated with dinner. wandering around and mingling = strictly water.
Post # 9
Pick a bridesmaid and have her be in charge of making you drink water.
Post # 10
Like the PPs, I barely had time to drink at our wedding. I stuck to beer to help keep myself on track. The only time I really had to watch myself was before the wedding while I was getting ready with my girls. Ther was a lot of champagne and mini bottles of vodka flying around. But my nerves were so high and there was so much adrenaline going through my system that I didn’t even feel any of the alcohol!
Post # 11
Oh, also-Make sure to EAT! It’s so hard to make time for it because the day is so crazy, but it’s SO important to eat!!!
Post # 12
glad Im not the only one on here! I too have a tendency to pound drinks – especially if I’m nervous. From what people have told me its almost impossible to drink bc of how much you’re talking. I am worried about the hours leading up to the wedding. I think I’ll go very mimosas that are heavy on the OJ.
Post # 13
@Brideonabudgetlauren: OO yes I have heard this too that remembering to eat is tough and that is a big one because that seriously impacts how big of a lightweight i am. very good point!!
Post # 14
For sure eat and drink a glass of water after each drink…will help you to stay hydrated and not get a hangover 🙂
Post # 15
I didn’t have time to drink either! And I was too nervous to eat much, so even thinking about alcohol on an empty stomach made me feel ill…I had a sip of champagne in the morning as my BMs had mimosas (I had already brushed my teeth since I woke up hours before them, so I just had a sip because they made a toast). Then after the ceremony, our caterer had us set up with our own personal waiter (super nice, btw) who asked for our drink order. I asked for a glass of white wine and had maybe one sip before I was whisked away to take pictures. Then at dinner there was a champagne toast…I maybe was able to drink half the glass throughout the entire reception since I was up on the dance floor the. entire. night. At the afterparty I did drink my first full drink of the night, one gin and tonic. At that point I was exhausted and just wanted to get DH back to the hotel for our wedding night, so we booked it out of there quickly, lol. So I had maybe 4 sips of champage, 1 sip of wine, and 1 gin and tonic from 9am to 1am.
I was also worried about socially sipping and told my BMs in advance that if they ever saw a drink in my hand, to go get me a glass of water and shove it in my other hand, so that my next drinks would be water, lol. They ended up not having to employ the technique, but I think it was in theory a good plan 🙂
Post # 16
When you get yourself a drink, get two; one cocktail, one glass of water. Don’t get yourself another drink until the water is gone.
I have to do this when we go out as I’m not a wine drinker or a beer drinker but I love me some whiskey. The problem is that while my friends are pounding back their low alcohol content drinks; I’m matching them with my liquor. I usually just order a water back and it helps me keep on track while being able to sip away and socialize.