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Hmmm that's a hard one...All I can say is, just keep thinking about the wedding and how much love and passion you two will expirence that night! :)
Only hold hands til then? I seriously am at a loss here, I agree you just have to keep your eye on the prize and think about how amazing your wedding night will be.
I mean, I've held off on sex for 28 years.... but not the other stuff. I give you guys major KUDOS!
Thats about all you can do is to continue to think about your upcoming wedding night. 10 months is a long time though!
My suggestion is to avoid instances where you can get in that situation. Like as soon as it feels too cozy, get up and get a drink, go to the bathroom, suggest picking a movie. Kudos on your respect for each other!
I have a ridiculous suggestion that you'd think was a joke BUT. My friend Heather wore a one piece bathing suit under he clothes every time she was with her FI. Not really sexy feeling nor is it easy access.. So? Bathing suit. I think she only did it for the last 3 months of their engagement though. Almost a year may be excessive... but hey! Advice!
@sahsabahs:Funny, but I can see how it could work! that or ugly, hard to get out of, spanx... You would have to make a conscious decision to get out of these, so there would be no "spur of the moment" excuse.
@ejs4y8: Yeah that! I'm on Yaz and have NO sex drive now... was pretty "normal" before.
My fiance and I lived in different cities until we got married. I found that helped a lot. :-)
@egb: good to know it kills the sex drive. I honestly refuse to take birth control. I won't put my body through that. As well as the fact that my family has a history of infertility after taking any type of birth control. And two of my aunts have indometreosis......I have showed some of the same signs they had growing up and while there is no sign of the disease it's not usually detected until mid to late 20's. So needless to say I will not put my body through that with how delicate my family line is.
And thanks everybody for the advice....and the swim suit idea. THAT IS FUNNY! But I can see how that would work!
You should do some research on endometriosis....birth control is the ONE thing that saves your fertility if you have it. The more you bleed, the more scar tissue you develop.
Endometriosis. I haz it =]. I've had a handful of surgeries and been on medications since i was 19 to protect my fertility, so if you have any questions about it, lemme know. You'll only know if you have it if you have a Dr. check you (via a laparoscopic procedure)....the "signs" aren't indicative of how serious it could be, but i know it's hereditary so it's really worth seeing a doctor to protect yourself.
Endometriosis isn't usually caught until mid to late 20's...when women try to get pregnant and can't.
Also, endometriosis can cause dyspareunia (painful sex) and it can develop over time and flare up occassionally, so if you haven't had sex in awhile and it pops up and doesn't go away no matter what, you'll want to see a doctor for a D&C possibly (vaginal scraping, not an abortion) to help alleviate any discomfort.
@Jenny09jf:I know many say that the pill kills the sex drive... It probably depends on the individuals and on the type of pill you take... I've been on it for years now and my sex drive is very high.. Unless it means I would be out of control if I wasn't on it?? Ha!
But I do understand that you don't want to get on it, given your family's history. Why risk it when there are other, non chemical ways to deal with it?
Yeah this is tough. I give you a lot of respect for staying strong until the wedding day. I would just agree with the other posters. Have your mind on the prize! lol You can do it!!!!
Keep praying about it. And take things one step at a time. Maybe every month try doing something new and exciting (spa, date night) that way you'll be looking forward to something one month at a time and before you know it your wedding is here!
Keep strong, I know you can do it!!!
Do a lot of activities in public! Try not to be in those situations where you get "alone" like movies at home and being by yourselves. Take a class together whether it be dancing, cake decorating, rock climb or even Martial arts. Take up a hobby by yourself, something you have always wanted to do. A lot of stuff you can learn online.
Whoa!! Good luck with that! You are going to have one hot wedding night though :)
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Okay so my fiance and I have a whopping 10 months (a few days more actually) until our wedding. We are both Christians, but during our "teen scene" years had sex with other people. We have decided not to have sex and not to even kiss until we are married. Mostly because of our religious beliefs. The whole not kissing thing is because we know if we did we would do a WHOLE lot more than kiss. The problem is it seems like my sex drive is on a complete overdrive ALREADY! Everytime he touches me I want to jump all over him and it is extremely hard to control myself. Anyone have any advice on how to handle my major sex temptations?