Post # 1
Massachusetts brides, how long did it take to get your marriage certificate back from the Commonwealth? Am I just being nervous, did something get screwed up?
My husband (still loving that word!) and I stood up in front of 108 of our nearest and dearest, a rabbi and our golden retriever on May 22 and promised to love each other forever. We gave our marriage license to our rabbi, she signed it, and told us she’d send it off. (Strangely, the license didn’t have any spots for us to sign).
3 months later, getting worried because we hadn’t gotten anything in the mail, I looked up how to obtain marriage records and sent off for our marriage certificate. And got a letter back saying “it’s too soon.”
WHAT?!? It’s 3 months. What if I had changed my name and needed the information to get things like A PASSPORT?!? Seems completely crazy to me, so I thought I’d see if anyone else had the same issue.
What did you ladies who changed your name do without the marriage certificate?
Post # 3
Hmmm…I got mine within a week or so. So three months seems way too long to me. And as far as I know, you do need the certificate to change your name with Social Security.
Post # 4
That’s really strange. I would check in with the government and make sure it hasn’t been lost or worse….
Post # 5
Weird! We got ours a week later! We applied for the license, had the ceremony a week later, and then a week after that we got the certificate – I had to go pick it up @ the town hall.
Post # 6
That sounds like too long. You’re right, how are you supposed to change your name or anything without it? I’m pretty sure you couldn’t change your name with social security without it, and that’s the first step supposedly.
I thought 1-2 weeks post wedding was more normal as long as your officiant sends it in right away.
Can you call the town clerk where you applied for the license and talk to an actual person? Might give you a chance to ask some questions and get answers besides “it’s too soon.” If they still say that, I’d ask, “ok, when then?” Is there any chance your rabbi didn’t send it in immediately? Otherwise it sounds like the town clerk screwed up.
Post # 7
I would keep calling and following up on this one. It sounds like it has been too long.