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I would be upset, too. I think if it were me, I would wait and see how the whole thing goes before you decide whether you're really going to be seriously upset. The difference could be:
a) if things go ok, you may feel like you're mad because he disrespected your plans, and you tell him so, but maybe you don't make a huge deal of it if things basically go ok.
b) if he looks hungover and you look puffy, you allow yourself to have a serious talk with him about it.
Does he do stuff like this a lot? That is another consideration. I guess by "a lot" I mean does he do it enough so that it is a pattern.
No he doesn't do this kind of thing a lot. So that's a good thing.
We already decided not to go to LA so I could work on my paper but I think he feels like the paper is the reason I got upset with him. I still think he was wrong to drink that much the night before and ruin our trip. It doesn't help that we've been kind of in a rough patch lately. Ugh.
I think you have every right to be upset. He should have respected the fact that you guys are going to be taking your engagement pictures but instead he decided to get wasted. He only thought about himself which to me would upset me. I think you guys need to talk things over and make sure this doesn't happen again.
To give him some credit, he was showered, dressed, and ready to go when he needed to be. it sounds like cumulatively you're under a lot of stress and are probably a little vulnerable to having your feelings upset.
Yes, you did. He showered and was ready on time. You told him it was ok to go out, and you're basically upset that he did? You overreacted.
He was ready on time and willing to go, you were the one who decided not to go. I think you overreacted.
@ KateMW-I see "we decided not to go", where does it say she decided not to? I'm confused. lol.
I think you were right to be upset. I wouldn't want my FI hungover in our e-pics, but maybe you should have asked him in advance not to get wasted? Give him some credit for at least getting ready on time. Not many guys would!
I think that I would be upset at him, but I would also be mad at myself for being mad at him. I would be so upset that I thought he wasn't taking it seriously, but at the same time, he was up and ready to go, so technically he did nothing wrong, which is why I would be angry at me for being angry at him. Yikes! Hopefully he learned his lesson and when you guys are ready to try again you will both be bright and fresh and shiny for them!
I think it's natural to be upset, but you might be a smidge TOO upset. Just a smidge.
@chubbypug: that's exactly how i feel. Thanks for the feedback bees. We talked about it and things are fine now. I do have a lot of other stress going on and I think this was the straw that broke the camel's back.
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My FI and I were supposed to go to LA this weekend and have e-pics taken by one of my friends who is an aspiring photographer on the campus where we met. We were originally going to drive down Friday but I have a deadline on Monday and decided that driving down Saturday would be better. So last night FI asks me if he can go out with the boys while I work on my paper. I said of course and just figured he would drink but not too much. Well, he came home wasted at 1am, and we were supposed to leave this morning at 7:30. He assured me he would be able to wake up in time but I was so upset. I mean, he is going to be all hungover in our photos and it made me feel like he just didn't take it very seriously. Am I overreacting? He did wake up on time this morning, showered, got ready to go on time, but I decided the weekend was already ruined for me. I didn't think I'd look good in the e-pics seeing how I was crying until 3:30 am and woke up at 6:30. I think the stress of my paper outline might be affecting me as well, but I wanna know if I am overreacting.