(Closed) Frustrated with family members

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Aww… that sounds terrible hun!  I’m sorry you are dealing with this so close to your wedding.  They should at least get the dress color that you wanted.  At least pink *kinda* goes with purple and ivory, not that it excuses them buying something you didn’t want.

It’s really hard to stand up for yourself and say “no, this is what’s happening”, especially to family.  I’ve been in that situation before as well.  But, they also need to understand that being an MIA bridesmaid is not helpful to you.

It would be wise to talk to them and let them know your feelings.  You don’t have to go super in-depth, but communicate how you are feeling and your expectations for the next few weeks.  You mentioned that you are having issues with your mom too, but does your FI have sisters/mom/aunts that could help you out too?

Post # 4
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

In short, here is what I think:

You compromised, in my opinion, on the BM dresses. They didn’t even buy the color you requested them to buy. And you let it go. That’s pretty nice. Seriously.

In regards to your sister’s event – tell her you will help and be supportive but that you ARE going to have a girls night with your friends. It is YOUR LIFE TOO.

Try not to let this get to you – life is too short to fight with family. BUT – sometimes it is going to be ABOUT YOU – and that means you put your own happiness FIRST. It is your wedding and while it is nice to be flexible, you can’t let people steamroll you.

Post # 5
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally agree with LoveWedding. Why should your sisters have a say in whether or not you’re going out? Go out with your girls and if your sisters want to do something else for you, then have THEM plan a bachelorette party for you. It is THEIR job, not yours. Helping is good…and it’s nice of you…but draw the line somewhere. And only you know where it is and know how to draw it. Good luck!!

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