Mad at myself

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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13003 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s really just luck of the draw how your body will react.  There are plenty of people who take BC for 10+ years who get off and get pregnant 2 weeks later.  I only took it for like 2 years and my cycle was messed up for 7 months where I had 2 90 day cycles.  Dont beat yourself up about it stopping earlier, it doesnt help anything now.  It’s just a few months anyways, it wont make or break anything.

Post # 4
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545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@confusedbridehere:  I’ve felt this way too. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s natural to feel this way.

One thing that has comforted me in the difficulty of TTC is the idea that all of these emotional challenges will make me a better wife and a better mother. What I’m learning about myself now will help me face the next stage in life. Like any other transition (like getting married) TTC comes with a sense of feeling completely out of control. I am working on being comfortable with this, by carefully observing my body, my feelings, my thought patterns, and letting go of what isn’t useful to me, because I know that being a mom comes with lots of issues related to control!

Post # 5
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@confusedbridehere:  I feel your pain! I stopped bcp at the end of June thinking everything would work itself out quickly. Here I am in November… I had 2 normal cycles and now 2 long, strange ones. 

Post # 6
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557 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

Every time I went off the pill it took a few months for my body to get back to my “normal”. It acted like I was still on the pill.  Just relax ( easy to say I know) and it will happen.  

Post # 8
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13003 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@confusedbridehere:  You and me both hun.  It seemed like EVERYONE I knew had it so easy, they stopped, they got knocked up like within 2-3 months and that’s what I planned for.  But here I am still trying 14 months later…. what I’ve learned now is there’s no “perfect” time.  I’ll take it whenver I can get it.

 

Post # 11
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4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@confusedbridehere:  Don’t be so hard on yourself! Everyone’s bodies react differently, so you really can’t predict how long it will take for you to get a bfp. Some people come off the pill and get pregnant right away, while others take a cycle to two to regulate. FX for your bfp soon!

Post # 12
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2764 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@confusedbridehere:  Try not to stress about it, everyone is different and you can never predict how long it will take to get pregnant after BCP, for some women it can take months, for others it can be right away.

My cousin tok BCP for years, and she got pregnant the 1st cycle; she wasn’t even planning a baby, she ran out of pills and got pregnant before getting a new prescription; she was 33. I had a copper IUD (non-hormonal) so I assumed I would get KU pretty fast, nope, I’m currently in my 4th cycle.

I have a friend who got pregnant after years of trying (~ 8 years) and some losses. Her baby is due in a couple of weeks 🙂

Everyone’s jouney is different 🙂

 

Post # 13
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am soooo with you. I am 51 days off bcp’s (13 yrs on) and still waiting to ovulate. I was having all kinds of wierd pains in my left ovary and went to the doc and had a ultrasound exam. They found a ruptured cyst : (  I haven’t even had my period, just 3 days of weird spotting. I just keeping waiting for my body to sort this all out. I never imagined I could not take bcp’s for almost 2 months and NOT be knocked up! I feel your pain. It is so frustrating!!!!!!!!!

Post # 14
cherrypieBee
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I went off the pill after 13 years and the only thing I did to try to jumpstart my body was accupuncture. Who knows if that did anything at all, but I started charting that first cycle and had two 26-day cycles followed by one 20-day with short luteal phase (probably due to intense training), and started trying and conceived on the next cycle. I’m 31. It’s not that way for everyone, but it’s not always crappy either. I was really surprised!

Post # 15
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i was on BCP for 14 years and was very surprised when AF came every 28 days immediately after.  i was expecting to be irregular for a while. but everyone is different.

i went off BCP in july bc we wanted to TTC in October.  we are starting our 2nd cycle.

 

Post # 16
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@confusedbridehere:  I totally hear you.  I know it seems like everyone gets pregnant right after stopping the BCP, but in reality that’s not the case.  And honestly, In my opinion I think some of the girls are fibbing… who wants to say, yeah, we tried for 6 months until I got pregnant! And ‘first try’ can mean different things – it can mean the first month off the pill, to the first month using OPKs/charting, first month have sex every single day, etc.  

I know it sucks, so hang in there with the rest of us!! 🙂 I’m on cycle 6 and still don’t have a sticky baby!

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