Made a HUGE mistake

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It happens.  I say let him cool off for awhile.  DH and I have started setting a timer when we have the burner on (like if we’re drying cast iron) so the beeping reminds us to turn it off.  We’ve both been guilty of this!  It’s not the end of the world.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It was an accident, they happen. Let him cool down, I’m sure he knows you feel terrible already. 

 

We have a sensor that plugs into an outlet that senses all of that stuff that could cause issues. We have a propane stove that heats our home, and I was insanely uneasy about it possibily leaking into the living room. 

 

The sensers run 40$ around here. Maybe pick one of those up to help ease your mind as well as his in the future?

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@buttercup26:  Don’t beat yourself up about it- accidents happen! It’s not lik you would intentionally leave a burner on. Let him cool off and it will be fine:)

Post # 6
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Why is he so mad? It was just an accident! Don’t beat yourself up over it, things happen!

Post # 7
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Newbee

Let him cool off. He is probably upset thinking what could have happened. You made a mistake, you learned from it. People handle things differently and he will probably get over it in a resonable amount of time.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My mum did that once and my dad was fuming…don’t worry, he calmed down. Like others have said, it was only an accident. We are all guilty of forgetting things!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just think, it could be worse! I have a friend who lived alone in her house, and she forgot to turn her gas oven off. She realised FIVE DAYS LATER.

I don’t know how she managed to live alone – she’s buying the house, but never did any cooking or yard maintenance. Her parents would go over and do it all for her. She’s in her mid 20’s! Thankfully she has two housemates now.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@buttercup26:  it was an accident.  DH has the left the oven on a few times after he has finished cooking.  i noticed it as i was cleaning up after dinner both time.

i am anal and always check and double check the stove and oven after i cook.  but now you know for next time to be more careful.

 

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It happens and he’ll get over it. No sense in being mad about it now – its over and done with.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@buttercup26:  You know what? He was probably scared-angry. You know, when someone does something silly and you realize how badly it could have hurt them, and you’re scared half to death about what could have been, so you go into pissed mode instead? Hope you’re both calmed down today and feeling better about it now. The timer is a great idea for the future.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@buttercup26:  Does your husband normally get that upset about mistakes?  I mean yeah, I would expect a short lecture from my husband about potentially burning down our home etc. but he wouldn’t be all out angry to the point where I’d need to leave him alone to cool off.  However, now that I think about it I’m pretty sure my dad would have been pretty mad and yelling if I did that or my mom did that at their house.  My dad is short tempered though, which I hate.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@buttercup26:  I’m sure he was only frustrated because you were in a situation that could have possibly put you in danger. Anger to mask worry/concern – my fiance is like this when it comes to things possibly happening to me. Definitely a guy thing. I’m sure he’ll be fine. He’s only freaking out about your safety.

Think of it as being like the little boy who wandered off in the supermarket… and when his mum finally finds him, he has to take the “Oh my god don’t you EVER do that again!! I was worried sick” (followed almost always by a whispered “Oh sweetheart, I’m so glad you’re ok!”).

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@buttercup26:  Oh my goodness.  I do shit like this a lot.  I forgot to turn off burners, I forgot to lock doors, I let the faucet drink accidentally.

H gets mad at me too, and wants to know what we can do to stop this.  He made me a little sign that is taped to the door, so when I walk out I’ll remember to check a list of things.

So normal people get mad but they are not gong to make it a multi day thing.  My H is very much a problem fixer, so he goes right into “OK what can I do to help you remember these things?”

Present some solutions to your H.  Hopefully that will get his mind off of being angry.  Men like solutions.

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