Post # 1
I have two bridesmaids, both old friends, and I asked one to be the Maid of Hon when I first got engaged, but then I realised that I wanted them to be equally involved, as there are only two, so I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I was thinking that I would just have 2 bridesmaids, and there wouldn’t be the title of Maid/Matron of Honor, she said that she understood.. I told her that I loved them both equally and wanted them to be involved the same…no labels. I guess I am feeling a bit weird though, thinking have I done the right thing, or have I been really horrible. My sister is signing the registry.
Post # 3
I like the idea. I wish I would have thought of it. I don’t have a real close group of girls in my life, and my close girl friends might not be able to attend the wedding, none the less do all the bm things so I didn’t want to pressure them into anything (we’re in medical school and this summer is super important for us to be doing electives, so we don’t know where we will be, when well be there, but we HAVE to take as many as we can if we want to get a residency.)
so I asked my cousin, my brothers wife and my fi’s only sister and then a close friend of both mine and my fi (she was fi friend first, but i’ve become pretty close to her over the last little while… i wouldn’t call her my bestie though). I asked the friend to be my moh but I don’t really know what the difference between moh and bm is, and i don’t think she does either haha so shes really just the one who will stand beside me and sign the registry…
Post # 4
@shinecloud: I tried to avoid titles at first and asked both my best friends if they’d stand with us. But when talking to vendors or people who don’t know me well it would sound confusing so I started saying I had two Maid/Matron of Honor. IMO “titles” were mostly to help identify who these women were to me to people who didn’t know us. Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t represent how important they are to me. As for the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor duties (sign the license, hold my bouquet during the ceremony…) I told both of them that I didn’t want to be in a position where I had to choose one over the other so they decided who wanted to do what. It worked out really well. They also gave a shared toast, which was hilarious because they’re such different people that they sort of played off of each other.