Post # 1
Ok so I have two very good friends, the best really, let’s call them L and A. L is the sweetest most dependable person I know, like she really goes above and beyond with everything she does. A. has been my friend since high school, super awesome, tons of great advice, just a great person to be around. Well L just had a baby not even a year ago and A just got married and started a new job. Both have been busy lately, and I don’t want to overwhelm them with worrying about my wedding, so I thought if I had a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor I’d still get tons of help (not like Bridezilla help, just typical MOH things I promise lol) and no one would feel like this is putting any strain on their lives. Plus I get two different points of views since they are both quite different! Sounds great right?
Well now I’m worried that they will feel like they’re not special in my life. And I am a litttllle (lot) worried about what A would say. A’s kind of been counting on being my MOH since… before I even worried about getting engaged. I don’t want to hurt her feelings!
Any advice Bees? They would get two different titles so that would help I guess but still…
Maybe I’m overthinking this…
Post # 3
So, one is married and one isn’t? Right?
I am having a Maid and a Matron because my sister (obligatory MOH) lives out west now. So, my matron of honor (and best friend, besides FI) has been doing the dirty work here in town.
I know your situation is a tad different but I don’t see any reason why you can’t do it. They should understand that they are both equally important to your life and the beginning of your marriage.
Post # 4
I am having a Maid and a Matron too. I learned a long time ago that if a title pleases someone that much and it’s simple enough for me to accomodate, I’ll do it!
Post # 5
@MrsM914: Yep one is married and one isn’t 🙂 And that’s what I’m hoping for. I don’t want it to get competitive and I don’t want anyone to feel second best, but we’re all adults and they should be able to understand. I’m probably worrying too much lol I do that sometimes
Post # 6
@LilRhodyGem: That’s my thoughts as well 🙂
Post # 7
I think you’re overthinking it. Plenty of people have a matron and maid of honor. I have 2 maid of honors.
Post # 8
@Jennyemm: I am having my sister as Matron of Honor (mostly because I feel like I have to) and then my best friend as Maid of Honor since she has been amazing and helpful throughout the whole process. Im sure it will be fine! 🙂
Post # 9
I’m a matron of honor in a wedding next year and I was so excited to find out that there was also a maid of honor. I didn’t feel less appreciated or hurt at all. I was happy that she asked me at all 🙂
Post # 10
I plan to do the same thing. My sister is pretty much my obligatory maid of honor, but my best friend really also deserves the title. Thankfully, she’s getting married this weekend, so she can be my matron of honor! Personally, if I were MOH and found out there was a matron, I’d be STOKED because it meant someone else had to help me plan the shower!
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2014 - Vintage Villas
I’m having too matron’s of honor. One of them is being a total brat about it (feels like shes been replaced, etc) and the other is so happy to have been choosen. It really just depends on the women you’ve picked. Either way its your wedding and your true friends should respect your wishes. Good luck!
Post # 12
Thanks you guys! It’s nice to have people who think I’m overreacting lol. I’d rather be overreacting than be right haha.
@futuremrscortez: Yeah I’d be lying if I said i wasn’t afraid that one is going to be worried about being replaced. But you’re right, and we are all adults not kids fighting for Prom Queen lol
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
I’m hoping to get engaged soon & will probably have 2 Matrons of Honor and a Maid of honor… i’m hoping they all realize how special to me and that I couldn’t pick one! Is having 3 honored attendents too much? I’m kind of torn on the decision…