Post # 1
My Maid of Honor sent a text to my mom a few nights ago saying her and her sister’s dresses do not fit and the only thing she can think of is to just bow out, and for my mom to call if she felt like talking about it. The wedding is in two weeks, by the way. When I heard this the next day, I took it as that they both were saying they wanted out. So I said fine, give them an out. My mom emailed both of them that she accepted their resignation as members of the wedding party. Later that day, MoH emailed me saying she was sorry she could not be there for me and wished me the best. Let me back up a little by adding the younger sister did not tell me she didn’t order her dress until December. So I rush ordered her dress and it is too small. You were supposed to measure yourself and go by the chart provided – She did not do this and I warned her that it is very possible it would be too small. She argued with me, so I ordered the size she wanted.
I’m upset with both of them for several reasons. Neither one felt the need, to this day, to call me and talk about how to fix the dress issue. It immediately went to, well I just won’t be in the wedding. Oh well. It’s not oh well and it’s not my job to call you up and beg you to be there for me. I do NOT play those kind of games. They should know me well enough to know this. I also know they both complained about the price and style of the dress, and they “have been to tons of weddings and never heard of one with no small children”.
Now the MoH is trying to spin it around and manipulate her own mother (who is my mom’s sister) by saying that’s not what she really meant and that my mom and I are being “mean and spiteful”. Now my Aunt is angry with the two of us, as if it is all our fault,
I feel they have both been so out of line during this process, it’s not even funny. 3 out of the 5 bridesmaids have their dresses in the correct size, ready to go. When I said this to the younger sister, her only response was, ‘good for them’.
As far as I’m concerned, this has ruined my relationship with both of these women. I feel like they have disrepected me and my mom to the point that I want nothing to do with them anymore.
I received MoH’s RSVP today. She will not be coming. I am sad it ended this way. And I really feel that they bailed on ME not the other way around….
Post # 3
Jeez! Sorry to hear this… I think its quite low for them to text your mother and not talk to you directly, as well as just run out on you instead of trying to fix the problem. The fact that this is also a family affair makes it harder… Because its so close to your wedding, i would try to just focus on the positives about the event and not let them ruin such a wonderful event in your life. I agree that its sad it ended this way, but at least you have a few weeks to get your thoughts and plans together. Keep your head up hun!
Post # 4
They are horrible people! Family or no family I would not have anything to do with them again unless they apologized and made it up to me in some big way. I’m sooooo sorry you had to go through this but at least you still have 3 persons who want to stand up with you. Make one of them MOH and forget about those extremely selfish people.
Post # 5
Hmm, it seems like some family members just don’t get it! I’m sorry you’re disappointed, if they come to you with any complaints explain to them that this is a stressful time for you and that how they acted was the opposite of supporting you. I asked one of my cousins to be a BM, she was sooo excited, then left me a text message saying her bf decided it wasn’t a good idea! She never showed up to the engagement party or bridal shower and is not coming to the wedding. Honestly, it’s their loss.. We’ve tried to include these people in our weddings and they’ve chosen not to be sooo F em! Lol
Post # 6
Truly cowardly to text your mother instead of you. And now she can’t be bothered to show up on your wedding day! Well, at least now you know how she really feels about you. Sorry, some people are just awful.
Post # 7
Hmmm….I know u are upset but maybe u should be grateful that they didn’t ruin your snug day! It sounds like they didn’t really want to be involved with nor go to your wedding anyway. I would be very hurt but in the end it may be a good thing. Why aren’t they coming?! Is there anything else to this story? I just can’t imagine doing that to someone….
and to their comment about never going to a wedding that didn’t have kids…that’s odd bc I’ve NEVER been to a wedding with a bunch of kids aside from the flower girl/ringbearers and maybe a few others. They seem nuts
Post # 8
A big part that I left out is that the MoH had an affair with a married man, while she was also married, about a month after I asked her. So both of them got divorced and they are now dating. My mom told her that this man was never to come over to the house and especially not the wedding. So I’m speculating that this put her over the edge and she decided to be passive aggressive instead of saying she had a problem with that. Apparently it was too much to ask that she leave her new flame at home – That is what I am hearing as of today.
Post # 9
My family sounds so crazy when I re read this! Haha!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
@megaleg: LOL, it could be WAAAY worse! trust me!
But, like one PP said, at least they won’t be able to ruin your day! I would howerever, be prepared, for her to possibly show up with said home-wreckee(the male LOL), and say she didn’t know for sure about the man, and that she “mis-marked” the RSVP.
It’s possible. Probably not, but it’s a possibility 🙂