Maid of Honor Drama

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@kaylaann:  It’s one day, out of a lot of days, she’s your friend, you would know if this is a normal thing for her or an isolated incident….either way, some people have a difficult time when close friends get married because it forces a closer examination of their own lives and goals…..which may not always be a good thing or easy….I would put it out of my mind, focus on good thing and from now on, Miss Nasty Britches drives herself.

Post # 4
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kaylaann:  Is Meg waiting for a ring?  She sounds exceptionally jealous.

My MOH is also my sister and she’s not so enthusastic about helping me either (Yet I listened to her go on and on and on while she was pregnant and during the first 6 months of my nephews life about pregnancy and babies etc trying to be supportive and understanding).  Sisters are weird, but they’re our sisters and we love them no how much they may be assholes.  My BM J, who is a close friend, is beyond excited to help with everything so I’m leaning on her as mucha s possible and leaving L (my MOH) out of it.

Post # 5
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@kaylaann:  hey Kayla! Im so sorry you had to go through that. You didnt do anything wrong at all. Your sister Meg seems to be jealous of you. Are you newly engaged? Wedding prep can bring out the best and the worst in people that are closest to you. Just keep wedding planning and find a time to have a one-on-one discussion with Meg. Make sure you check on Janine and thank her for sticking up for you.

Post # 6
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@kaylaann:  maybe your sister is going through something that’s stressing her out. sounds like she was all excited and honored to be your MOH then changed her tune suddenly. The snide comments makes it sound like she might be jealous of you getting married. You did everything you could to let everyone know they didn’t have to stay for the whole day. 

Post # 8
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Unacceptable behavior is, well unacceptable and she should be ashamed of herself. I do not care how miserable a person is they can suck it up for one freaking day and behave themselves, specially for their sister. You don’t sound like a crazy bridezilla nor were you being unreasonable. 

Please do not beat yourself up, you might want her there on your day but if this is a precurser to future behavior do you want to deal with it consistantly? I’d wait and not give in to her temper tantrum, sounds like she’s been enabled a bit to much, and try to have an adult conversation with her. Don’t beg, plead or say your sorry. Ask her if she wants to reconsider and be in the wedding (if you want). Otherwise, hope she can come as a guest.

I had huge wedding party drama, so I feel like I have a place to speak from, and yes it was sister drama that was similar to yours. Hope it works out for you, you deserve to have your sister stand by your side 🙂

Post # 9
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@kaylaann:

Wow…  Sure not going to lie I wouldn’t enjoy having to take off my whole day just to go dress shopping.  With that being said I would go and I wouldn’t even slightly complain.

Hopefully your sister will wake up tomorrow and realize that she was being horrible.  Sorry you had to deal with that.  Sounds like you should eat some icecream.

Post # 11
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@kaylaann:  Sorry to hear about this! I can somewhat relate as I haven’t always gotten along with my older sister (who is my MOH, and I was her MOH for her wedding), but as we’ve gotten older our relationship as sisters has also turned into a friendship. Also, if my sister pulled a stunt like this in front of my mother, my mom would have put her in her place the second she opened her mouth!

If I were you, I would ask her to step down as a bridal party attendant. Maybe you can ask the other 2 girls to be your Maids of Honour (you can have two!–pick one to sign the marriage license, and one to be partnered with the best man and stand beside you). Your sister seems to be showing her true colours during this time.  Wedding planning is stressful and the last thing you need is additional stress and negativity. She is in the wrong and deep down she knows. It’s going to be hard, but ignore her negative comments and snide remarks. The less interaction you have with her during this time, the better!!!

 

Post # 12
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@kaylaann:

Well if that’s the case forget her.  Do you really want someone, no matter how close you are to them, who acts like that at your wedding.  She’s not worth the worry.  She sounds very immature.  If she really cared about you she would have acted differently or at least apologized.

Post # 14
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@kaylaann:

Sure it hurts and that sucks.  Sometimes the heart gets broken and needs to move on.  It’s never easy or fun but it’s for the best.

Post # 15
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1801 posts
Buzzing bee

@MsGinkgo:  I was thinking the same thing, very immature chick she is!!

Im a waiting bee and I had 2 friends get engaged before me, even though I have been with my SO longer, but I would NEVER act like that. I am also not petty enough to be “jealous” when other people have good fortune with something like that. Now if my man doesnt propose in 20 years and my goddaughter gets married first….THEN I would get mad. Lol

 

OP-DROP HER ASS like a hot tamale!! 

 

Post # 16
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Bethesda Academy Whitefield Chapel & Brockington Hall

@kaylaann:  I am so sad to hear about this, and I agree with PrincessPerry. She’s acting in an unacceptable manner. This wedding is to celebrate YOU & YOUR FI, and the start of your married life together. It is NOT an appropriate place for your sister to project her grievances. You were honest about the arrangements of the day ahead of time and gave her every opportunity to bring her own car & make her own way home when she needed to be there. You did everything on your end to make sure that the people joining you for the activities were prepared. You cannot take it on yourself that she decided to act immaturely. I believe that her break-up probably has a lot to do with her actions, but that is NO EXCUSE for rude, nasty, behavior.She is being petty and childish.

I’m sorry that she isn’t talking to you, but since this is the way she has decided to act, maybe it is going to be better for you in the end if she isn’t your MOH? Your MOH should be someone you can rely on for help, guidance and advice. It should not be someone whose ego you are constantly having to stroke, or have to listen to her insults/negativity.

I would leave her alone for the time being. Focus on your day and your happiness with your FI. You need someone by your side who will wipe away your tears, not cause them.

 

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