Maid of Honor Drama

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
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  • Post # 2
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wouldn’t have her as my Maid of Honor.

    She’s making the process difficult, and that’s reason enough to have someone else fill that position. 

    Post # 3
    339 posts
    Helper bee

    If your relationship is important to you and this is really just an “im mad, hear me roar” moment for her, you dont want to make a decision that will damage your relationship for years to come based on both of you having a low tolerance for each other right now in this moment. Talk it out… I’m sure you’re not the only one with hurt feelings!

    Post # 5
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I definitely wouldn’t have her as my MOH. My sister was just a bridesmaid (I didn’t even want that).

    Post # 5
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    You don’t really need a MOH, so don’t let this interfere with your plans. 

    Either you and your sister mend things in time and she’s your MOH, or the day before your wedding, you can ask a bridesmaid to take over the MOH duties or split them among your bridesmaids.  There’s absolutely no need to rebrand one of your bridesmaids as your MOH, or give her a shiny badge so everyone recognizes that she is MOH.     

    Post # 8
    1272 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    DancinBride:  I think it’s important to talk it out with her, but I wouldn’t reinstate her if she quit during a fight. You can’t control when another fight might happen again, and you don’t want to stress about her doing it again a week before the wedding! If you can make her a bridesmaid instead, I would do that. If she apologizes and says she would still like to be your MOH, I would suggest her being a bridesmaid instead (because if this happens again, it’s not as big of a deal). I know this is a little unrelated, but this is a similar reason to why FI and I decided not to involve his mom deeply in the wedding–when her and FI get into arguments, she will always do something like this to try to get even with him, and she always picks the fights at the most stressful times.

    Post # 9
    858 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely talk to her about it. Tell her that she cant use this as a scape goat for her own issues. Ask her if she still wants to be, and that she has to be definte about it!

    Post # 10
    42101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    DancinBride:  If this just happened last night, I would leave the situation alone for a while till you both have time to cool off.

    Post # 11
    3 posts


    DancinBride:  I understand how you feel.  I’d maybe try talking it out, but if she makes it clear that she doesn’t want to talk, then hey, that is on her.  This is your day, and if she is choosing to make your day about unresolved issues you two have, then that too, is on her.  You honored her by asking her to be your MOH and if this is how she’s going to repay you, I’d totally understand why you wouldn’t want her as an MOH. 

    I hope it works out for you.  Yes, weddings can and do bring out the worst in people.  Trust me, I know.  Going through that with my brother right now.

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