Post # 1
Ill start from the beginning.
I chose my Cousin who i have been best friends with my whole life to be my Maid of Honor at my wedding,I chose her above my own sister which i am now seriously regretting and don’t know what to do..
My mum is sick so i am planning this whole wedding on my own (with help from my FH here and there…)
I always thought it would be My cousin and I planning and being excited together and that she would have my back, but she has not even offered to help, or doesnt seem interested when i ask her opinion on colours and decisions i need to make and i feel so alone.
She has been critical of my ideas when i tell her of plans and when i showed her my processional song that we love and want she told me that she had the song in mind for her own wedding and that she would be upset if i use it?
She is not even engaged and infact , she is single.
Would you use the song?
My fiance wants to still use it but im not so sure, i know i let people walk over me but i dont want to hurt her feelings!
FYI the song is:
“The wedding song- Angus and Julia Stone”
Post # 3
I would use whatever song I wanted, and tell her that she can use whatever song she wants as well. It’s a song. No one is going to remember what song you walked down the aisle to, except you.
Post # 4
use the song. she can’t “claim” anything for her non-existant wedding. even if she were engaged, i would still say to use the song. it’s just a song and nobody is going to remember it.
Post # 5
@beautifullyboheamian: Uh seriously? She doesn’t want you to use a song for YOUR processional that she apparantly wants to have in her not-even-on-the-books yet future wedding??
Use the song that YOU and your FH want to walk down the aisle to. Its YOUR wedding. She is not engaged, her wedding is just a far away gleam in her eye, and she does not get to call the shots at your wedding.
Post # 6
I’d use it. By the time she gets married 1) she will likely have found a song she likes better and 2) even if she uses it nobody will remember they’ve heard it before.
Post # 7
First off, I LOVE that song!! Second, use it…there’s no telling when she’ll get married and by then, not a single person will remember that you used it!
Post # 8
Even if she does want to use that song, people use the same music for their wedding all the time! Canon in D, Christina Perri’s A Thousand Years, Vivaldi’s Four Seasons….I know those are more common examples, but the point is people are going to use the same music. It’s your wedding, and if you want to use that song use it! Just because you use it first doesn’t mean it will be less special if your “friend” wants to use it down the line. She doesn’t get to dictate your wedding choices.
Post # 9
It might be one thing if she were engaged… But she’s single. LOL. She has some nerve!
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