(Closed) Maid of Honor has Backed Down from Coming to the Wedding :*(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Money is the biggest factor.. Some people just realistically cant afford it. I was invited for one of best friends wedding in england, I couldnt make it.. I tried and tried, but I was going to be about 1k short. I was SOO devestated when reality set in that I just couldnt afford to go. I think she is hurting just as much as you are, thats why shes apologizing.

Sometimes life just gets the way, least you know she will be there in spirit, Im sure she is super excited for you.

Post # 4
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt.  Sometimes we really don’t know the complete story.

Post # 5
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sometimes even $1200 is not feasbile financially.  There have been weddings near my hometown that I have not been able to attend because of expense and work committments that have broken my heart.  With children at home the financial strains become even more painfully evident.  As an earlier poster stated, I’m sure she is hurting just as much as you are and try to be as understanding as possible. 

Post # 6
2641 posts
Sugar bee

And if they have kids, sometimes it’s more than money.  It sounds liek they won’t be in school,  but just the idea of traveling with kids is exhausting. (Not sure of their ages.)  But bringing them certainly increases the cost of travel.

Post # 7
226 posts
Helper bee

I think you need to take a step back and realize how ridiculous you sound.  You want her to fly half way around the world only to stay two days, just so she can attend your wedding?  I’m sorry, but that’s just crazy.  And on top of it, you want her to pay to fly half way around the world only to stay for two days.  Did you offer to pay for her trip?  Not everyone is comfortable leaving their children behind while they travel outside of the country, $1,200 is not pocket change, and Turkey is not next door.  If having everyone important to you at your wedding is important to you, maybe you should have had your wedding in the U.S. where most of those people are. 

I know it’s easy to get caught up in something that’s important to you, but I think you need to remember that it’s your wedding.  It matters a whole lot more to you than it does to those attending. 

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