Maid of Honor – is it too late?!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@dreamer1288:  Personally, I think that’s fine.  You might want to put it in a positive light – tell her how much you appreciate all that she’s done and that you would love for everyone else to recognize her contributions and importance on your wedding day, too, and for that reason you would like to know if she would be your “official” MOH.

When you tell the other girls that you did this, don’t put anyone down or act like they’ve done anything wrong.  As far as I’m concerned, all I expect my girls to do is wear a dress and show up to the wedding.  Anything additional they choose to do is just icing on the cake!  As for them not being in contact, etc, maybe they’re just busy?  Remember that your wedding day is not as important to anyone else as it is to you.  They’re probably just going about their lives, assuming that when there’s something to be done, someone will step up and make it happen.  The problem is that when everyone assumes someone else will do it, it never happens.

Anyway, so when you tell the other BM’s that you’re actually choosing a MOH, just tell them that MOH has done so much and gone so out of her way for you that you think it’s only right to give her the title of MOH. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@dreamer1288:  I would be too–even if they WEREN’T bridesmaids, when you reach out to ANY friend and are ignored repeatedly, it’s hurtful.  Maybe approach them individually in the spirit of your friendship?  Just ask them what’s going on and why they’re not responding? 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@dreamer1288:  I am totally in agreement with the bees on this!  Not too late, and its a gesture of your appreciation for her help.  Can the other bridesmaids pout?  They sure can.  but they can’t argue with the facts!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is more than ok to ask the responsible one to step up as MOH. That’s the kind of person you want to be there for you on the big day. It’s good that you’re aware that the other BMs have lives outside the bridal party. If the other girls get upset that you’ve picked a MOH, then they can just suck it up.

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