Post # 1
So I just found out my matron of honor is pregnant and her due date is 5 days before my wedding. I’m SO HAPPY for her! She was so worried about telling me. We talked about it and she said she still wants to be a part of the wedding but doesn’t think she will be able to walk down the aisle the wedding day either way if she is still pregnant or if it’s right after baby born. I totally understand and just hope she doesn’t have the baby the day of the wedding. It would be really hard b/c I know she would want me at the hospital and so would I. It’s two VERY big events. I couldn’t be any more happy for her!
So my question is, should I ask another friend to be in the wedding party? My friend is still my maid of honor but she won’t be standing up next to me at the actual wedding. That is if she will be even able to come. My friend has no problem with asking someone to stand in and I was thinking I just would be one short. Will it be rude to ask another friend to be in wedding party this late? I don’t want anyone to feel “second best.”
Post # 3
I voted no, unless of course you haven;t really publicized your wedding party choices yet. If you have, any friend you are close enough to to ask would know this and would know that they are your b-lineup!
Post # 4
No, why do it? Just to have the same # of bridesmaids and groomsmen? I would be kind of pissed to be asked to cough up money for a dress, etc., just to be a “stand-in.”
Post # 5
From what I hear, the last month of pregnancy is really uncomfortable. I would not ask her to stand for the ceremony and try and include her as much as possible in the planning.
Post # 6
@Utopia4us: That is what I was thinking too! My MOH suggested it but I think if I ask anyone they will feel like I just asked because MOH is pregnant. It was hard to pick the girls I did and I have already announced who my girls were.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t ask someone else. I would feel bad/awkward about being a b-list bridesmaid. I would just stick to it that way it is.
Post # 8
@JoJo Bananas: Oh no I am not asking her to do that, I wouldn’t ask her to do that.
Post # 9
@mightywombat: My MOH suggested getting a “stand in” to keep our numbers same as groomsmen, but I think I should just have one short the day of.
Post # 10
How long is your ceremony? What about having chairs for the bridal party to all sit down so she can sit as well. I actually saw this at a wedding this summer and thought it was really nice to not make everyone stand for so long! That way all she has to do is walk. If shes not in the hospital I dont see why she cant walk. If she hasnt had it yet, or if she’s been let out of the hospital, there’s no reason not to. Though that makes a dress fitting really hard! Otherwise, I wouldnt as for a stand in since your picks have been announced.
Post # 11
Since you already announced your choices, I wouldn’t ask anybody else to be a “stand in”. I think that’d just make it really awkward for you and whoever you ask to be the stand in person.
Post # 12
Bridesmaids are up there because they are the most important people in your life, not to have an even number, and not to be replaced when they have a baby. I think replacing a bridesmaid says to the new bridesmaid that they weren’t important enough to you to ask in the first place, and says to the old bridesmaid that she was only there as a prop.
Post # 13
Nope. Unless you hadn’t publisized who you’d picked yet and had a friend that you’d REALLY wanted to include in the first place. I wouldn’t go get a stand in just to have even numbers.
Post # 15
That’s a hard decision.. I would see for sure what she wants to do and go from there. You don’t know how her pregnancy is going to go or whats going to happen when she gives birth. The way I see it is either 1.) she is going to be late, but super uncomfortable and unable to attend or 2.) she is going to have her baby on time but may not make it to the wedding either due to pain or the sole fact that her baby needs her. So honestly, I would just have one of the bridesmaids walk down the aisle with two groomsmen.
Thats just me though 😛
Post # 16
Maybe go with the odd number. include her in the pamphlett but but like welcome baby girl/ boy… so she is still included in ways. If ur saying both are big events to you