Maid of Honor question

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Believe me this is a much better problem to have than a MOH who shows no interest at all. Also planning a wedding is A LOT of work so IMO take all the help you can get. If jars of jam is not your thing gently suggest something else (although people don’t really car about the favors) at the end of the day it is your wedding and if you rell wan something just say so. In terms of engagement/showers/bachlorettes, a lot of times the bride has no say since she is not usually the one hosting the party.

ETA: if you reall feel strongly about not having these parties you should tell your MOH o you feel.

Post # 4
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Be honest with her. If she starts going on about an idea she likes and makes it sound “final” – explain to her exactly what you’ve said above. That you don’t think it suits you as a couple, or that you already have an idea for that, etc. Keep her involved, but just remind her that it is your wedding and as much as you appreciate all of her enthusiasm and effort, the final say is yours.

I think if you let this keep happening without speaking up you might start disliking her and that will make things much harder. It doesn’t sound intentional, from what you’ve said I think she is just super excited for this wedding and caught up in all the wonderful ideas and details that are out there (which is easy to do! :))

Just remember to thank her for helping you and wanting to make your day so special.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CaliBrit:  Sit down and have a grown up talk with her. Tell her how much you appreciate her and that you love how excited and organized she is, reasons why you chose her to be your MOH. But point her in the right direction. Be nice about it. I’m sure she will understand. She just sounds excited and has gotten a bit carried away and is planning it like it is her own wedding. Remind her who the bride is and what you were thinking. I’m sure it’ll be better after you talk with her. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CaliBrit:  I’m looking back at old threads I commented on and came across this one. What ended up happening since this post?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CaliBrit:  Awesome! I wasn’t hoping for drama. I don’t like it when friendships get ruined and feelings get hurt during planning. It seems like it happens a lot on the bee. I’m really happy to hear that it all worked out so well. We’re both 2014 brides! Has it finally sunk in that this is THE year? I’m like slowly starting to panic on the inside lol.

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