Post # 1
I’ve been engaged a few months now and I’m just starting to plan. I know for sure that my sister will be my Matron of Honor. I would love to give my best friend of many years the title of Maid of Honor. Is this odd? Has anyone else had 2 Maids of Honor? I thought it might be ok since my sister is matron and my friend would be maid.
Oh and while I’m at it…. is it rude not to have FI’s sister in the wedding? We are not close. This is stressful!
Post # 3
@Missykate: it’s fine! i’ve heard of lots of people doing it
Post # 4
@Missykate: it’s ok, I’ve had 2 MOH. my sister and my friend. They were both ok with it =)
Post # 5
I’m just having two maids of honor and two best men, no bridal party. The last wedding we went two had two of each plus a party.
Post # 6
@Missykate: is he close with her? Is that his only sister? I would honestly be hurt if my brother was getting married and I wasn’t included in the bridal party. it is a nice gesture to include her.
You can have a maid & matron of honor. I’ve been in weddings tha have had that.
Post # 7
I’m having a maid and matron and I’m also having his only sister as a bm even though we are not close at all!!!
Post # 8
I’ve heard of it, and I think it’s a great idea! Win win!
Post # 9
I think its fine 🙂
I would say no to the sister being in the party – you arent close. The girls are for you to choose and the guys are for him to choose. So you choose the two people you are closest too. there is NO way I would expect to be in my brothers wedding.
Post # 10
I think it’s fine and not a big deal. I’m having my sister as my maid of honor, but she’s not doing/getting anything special and my best friend helped her plan the bachelorette party and gave a speech at my shower while my sister will give a speech at the wedding. Obviously my best friend would be my maid of honor if I didn’t have a sister. We aren’t too concerned about titles and rules, so I don’t think it would be much different if I had 2 maid of honors. Also, I’m having my fiance’s sister in the wedding and it’s been so great and has brought us so much closer. I would definitely do it!!
Post # 11
I think having both a matron and maid of honor is fine. As for his sister, talk to your FI as see if it’s really important to him.
DH didn’t have my brother in his party, so we had him do a reading. This way, he was involved, but not part of the wedding party.
Post # 12
@Missykate: i’ve heard of people doing that. I would’ve but my sister (who i’m close to) would’ve killed me lol.
Post # 13
@Missykate: I’m having two Matrons of Honor, so I say do whatever you feel like doing! I wished one could’ve been a Maid, but she beat me to the altar, so she’s going to be a Matron too.
I am having my fiance’s sister as a BM in our wedding. We get along well but are not like best friends. I think it’s a nice gesture to include your fiance’s sister if you can spare a spot, and like PP said, it may make you closer!
Post # 14
Thanks for the replies everyone.
@FoxyBride14: he used to be close with her. But she isn’t a very stable person and has caused some issues between his family and I. FI basically said it would be nice to ask, but he doesn’t care or expect me to, because she seems to not even like me.
I don’t want his family to think I purposely did not include them, but at the same time I want to avoid any drama. I feel like I need to protect my wedding if that makes sense haha
Post # 15
@Missykate: It’s not strange! I’ve seen it before, and besides, it’s your wedding you can do what you want! I also don’t think you’re obliged to have anyone in your bridal party, particularly if you’re not close! 🙂
Post # 16
@Missykate: I would still ask her. A bridesmaid can do as little or as much as you want. Just have her get a dress & show up.