Post # 1
I have seen a few posts lately about people putting their maiden name as their middle name when they get married so they don’t lose it. Can anyone tell me more about this lol? I already have a middle name, but if it’s legal, I wouldn’t mind making my maiden name my middle name and take FI’s as my last name. Is it as simple as change your last name when you get married?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
It happens all at the same time, and it’s perfectly legal. It happens all on the name change paperwork. So you just fill in your maiden as your middle, and his last as your last and submit it that way.
Post # 4
@Brace2014: Well, for example, if your name is Mary Sue Illiterate, and you marry John Bob Swearypants, you’d become Mary Illiterate Swearypants.
lol. I’m just teasing you. But that’s the way it would work. Geena Teena Brace marries Brent Michael Grace, and becomes Geena Brace Grace. From Friends, I learned that you can change your name to almost anything…such as Princess Consuelo Banana Hammock.
Post # 5
@MeiFrancis: Thank you! For some reason I thought it would be so much harder than that haha
@peachacid: haha I like your sense of humor! I think I win the most hated Bee of the night award 😛 I love Friends ahah
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@Brace2014: oh, it takes a lot more than that to be the most hated bee of the night!!
Post # 7
I have definitely considered this for when I get married. My middle name really has no sentimental meaning to me. Also my maiden name is “prettier” than my current middle name.
My SO thinks it would be silly to make my maiden name my middle name, but I think I can easily convince him when the time comes.
Post # 8
@Brace2014: I did that, I just put it as my middle name on my license app. I would assume it’s legal everywhere within the US, but I don’t know every states policies. I was married in NY.
Post # 9
@jadlnc: Oh,I live in Canada, so I should probably check with the policies here, thanks for reminding me different places have different policies 😛
@highschoolhoneys: Same here! My middle name is religious based, which I am not, so I would perfer to replace it with my maiden haha. I talked with FI about hyphenating the two lasts name, but he didn’t like that idea so much because both are pretty long haha. So maybe this way will work best (:
Post # 10
@Brace2014: Oh yes, then you may want to just give a call to wherever you would go to get the marriage license, they should know.
Post # 11
@Brace2014: I don’t know how simple it is, but it can’t be too onerous as a lot of people do it and it’s a good idea.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I did this– I was Leah Dggy Kitty before, for example, now I am Leah Kitty DH’sLastName
Super easy to change it here in the US, right at SS office. No biggie at all. HOWEVER, most agencies and businesses are COMPLETELY, UTTERLY stupid when it comes to you changing your name…. Most places just cannot wrap their head around you changing your former last name to the middle name.
My employer, home insurance, bank, retirement plan, EVERYTHING was wrong. No one checked that I had changed my middle name… I literally had to tell them ”Nope, not hyphenated. The middle name has changed. Yes, it was formerly my last name. Nope. Not hyphenated. Leah Kitty DHLastName. Not hyphenated.”
Post # 13
I have legally used my maiden name as my middle name since being married in 1988.
It was very important to keep my maiden name as my father was an only son and he had two daughters. It also symbolizes that, while I became a family with my husband upon marriage, I am still a part of the family into which I was born.
Post # 14
In the USA, “legally” a woman “assumes” her Husband’s Surname if she so wishes when she marries. Which means that it is added to the list of Birth Names that she has… so Jane Anne Doe upon marrying Robert Jones becomes… Jane Anne Doe Jones. Most women fore-shorten this to just Jane Doe Jones or they opt to drop their own Maiden Surname and be known as Jane Anne Jones (as in the USA, most paperwork will only accommodate up to 3 names, or a First & Last plus an initial).
If one wishes to hyphenate the last Surnames… then that is done by merely adding the hyphen.
If a woman wishes retain her Maiden Name in the USA, then she just continues along on her merry (marry lol) way and does nothing in regards to changing her Drivers License etc.
In Canada… things are somewhat similar. However, in Canada (outside of the Province of Quebec… where a woman cannot take the name of the Husband) we have the added option of when we marry changing our last name entirely at the time that we marry (without additional costs) … and creating a new family surname. So if Jane Doe marries Robert Jones… they might agree to become the Doenes. In which case a legal name change must be undertaken, that will also affect their Birth Certificates… as this is not the “assumption” of a name… but a name change entirely / legally.
In the USA, Brides have this option as well (altho fewer do it there than here) … but I believe it is at an additonal charge.
Hope this helps,
EDIT TO ADD (having seen your UPDATE) – In Canada having 3, 4, 5 names is not unusual (common actually because so many of us have a British or French ancestory) so adding one’s Maiden Name as a middle is not a big deal. Paperwork here will normally easily accommodate that name (lol if you aren’t out into the 5 and beyond list already). Altho many Government Forms etc, will offer you up just boxes where you can tack on the Initials, or ask you to choose one Initial for your middle name (the latter more common when it comes to dealing with Businesses)
Post # 15
@Brace2014: In the US, at least, this is very common in the South. Less common in the Northeast. In New York, where I live, it’s WILDLY more complicated and expensive than just changing your last name. But in the South, where I’m from, it’s no different.
So I’m sure you can check with your province and see if there’s any difference than just changing your last name upon marriage!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@peachacid: Friends reference? I love you.