Post # 1
Long time reader, first time poster. Mr. Gnome and I got married on over a week ago on August 2nd and now the fun of the name change games are about to begin. My DH and I have been together for over seven years and we were engaged for over two before tying the knot. I always knew I wanted to keep my maiden name in some way because it’s unique, a huge part of who I am, and my love for my family and Polish hertiage. But after being with Mr. Gnome for so long, he is my family too and I want to share the same last name with him. My maiden name is 10 letters long and combining it with Mr. Gnome’s last for two last names or hypenating would make it 16 total, not to mention my 8 letter long first name. But I read on here that many Bees make their maiden name their middle or a second middle name and I thought I found the perfect compromise for my problem. But I read a few stories on here that in Ohio you cannot do that without going through the courts and getting a full legal name change, Miss now Mrs. help line told me the same thing. But when we went to get our marriage license, the lady said I could move my maiden name to a second middle name so I’m just confused by receving conflicting information. Are there any recent Ohio brides that succesfully made their maiden name a middle or second middle name? Thank you for your help!!
Post # 2
I don’t think I would take the advice of the person at the license office. They can put whatever they want on the license but that doesn’t mean that Social Security or the DMV will accept the new name.
Post # 3
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy – Thank you for your advice! It helped me mentally prepare for that not being an option when I started going places to get this done.
I went to the Social Security Office the other day and the man helping me said nothing when he looked at my form with my two middle names and typed it up just how I wanted it. I have to wait until my card comes in the mail until I can go to the BMV, where I’ve heard most women have problems. Ohio only puts middle initials on driver’s licenses, and honestly I would be okay if they give me a hard time and only put my first middle initial. Mr. Gnome, our families and friends, and even Social Security knows that my maiden name is my second middle name, I don’t feel that I need to spend a ton of money going through the courts to make what is already true to everyone that matters, true for the BMV. We’ll see how it goes next week and I’ll post an update on here.
Post # 4
UPDATE: They let me do it!! The lady at the BMV was unsure if I could have both my original middle name and my maiden name as second middle name but she checked with her supervisor and I think she saw how nervous I was and she let me do it!!! I’m am abosutley ecsatic right now!! I got to keep my orignal name but have the same last name as my husband!! I’m so happy Ohio is finally letting women have more leeway in how they choose to change their names!!
Post # 6
Mrs.Gnome: That’s great! Thanks for the update – that is probably the same route i will go down when the time comes! 😉