(Closed) Mailing shower and wedding invitations together?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I mail them together?
    Yes, do it! : (11 votes)
    50 %
    No : (10 votes)
    45 %
    Other (comment below) : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If every guest is invited to both I don’t see why you have to waste a bunch of stamps mailing them separately.

    Post # 4
    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I did it.

    Post # 5
    4786 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I say go for it! Especially since all your guests are invited to both.

    Post # 6
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    Me personally would like them separate as most people (in my experience) don’t read. But if that is what you want to do, I don’t see a problem with it! I sent mine separately. More people RSVPed to the wedding versus the shower.

    Post # 7
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I say you can do what you want! I included a wedding website on my “RSVP” card that had RSVP options with additional information about the wedding. Maybe you could do something like that? 

    Post # 8
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    You should not be inviting anyone to a shower.  It is very impolite to host your own shower.  You are hosting yourself a party to which guests must bring a gift.  A shower is the only party that has mandatory gift giving requirements.

    A shower must be thrown by someone other then yourself, so you should not mail them together.

    Post # 9
    25 posts
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If you are hosting a BBQ, I would not call it a shower. A shower implies that you are throwing yourself a party to get gifts. Someone else should throw your shower. But if you change the name of the BBQ to just that, a BBQ, not a shower, I don’t see anything wrong with including it with your invitation.

    Post # 10
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    That’s smart. I’d do it!

    Post # 11
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s unusual to hold a shower that all of your guests are invited to, but okay, let’s set that aside – hosting issue set aside too.

    I would send them separately because I think the shower invite will get lost the wedding invite and you’ll have lower turnout than you hope for.

    With something casual and an “eco-friendly” theme where you’re okay with not necessarily doing proper etiquette, I’d mail the wedding invite and do an evite for the shower. I think that would drive the best attendance and understanding of the two events.

    It sounds like you may already have shower invites printed though.

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