Post # 1
Ok so today I was hanging out with a really close friend of mine. We took a little hike through the state park, talked and just caught up on everything going on. Well she just got engaged two weeks ago so of course we were mostly all wedding talk as I too am engaged, but got engaged back in July.
I ordered my dress 3 weeks ago, and she has not seen it yet so I pulled out my phone and showed her pictures of it and her face just went blank, and it was a dead silence. Im like are you ok? She’s like I think thats the dress I just ordered.
She just ordered her dress 3 days ago, and then she pulled out her phone and showed me pictures of hers and sure thing ITS THE SAME DRESS…
WHAT DO I DO?
I am ordering it in white, added a custom sash thats going to be sewn in at the waist, and I also changed the zipper back into a corset.
She on the other hand ordered it in Ivory and isn’t doing any custom changes.
DO I HAVE HER TRY TO FIND ANOTHER DRESS OR WILL IT BE OK SINCE THEY ARE SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT COLORS AND I HAVE CUSTOM CHANGES WHERE AS SHE HAS NONE!!!
Post # 3
With different accesssories, in different colours and in different shapes and sizes, you will look different. Nobody but you will notice. Don’t worry about it!
Post # 4
Well not for nothing, but you can’t MAKE her order another dress and it would be pretty rude to try to get her to do that. You’re making so many changes that no one is going to notice they’re the same dress but you have to decide if you can personally be ok with it.
Post # 5
what dress is it? im sure no one will notice.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
It would be ridiculously rude to ask her to order another dress (you can’t “have her” order another dress, that is extremely presumptuous of you). I’m sure a lot of the guests at your wedding won’t be the same, and they won’t remember. Even if they do, it’s not a big deal. Whose wedding is first?
Post # 7
People won’t notice, especially if you’re making changes to your dress. Your accessories, hair, etc won’t be the same either. Not a big deal, IMO.
Post # 8
People won’t notice. Plus, you’re accessorizing it differently and are two different people. It’s no big deal. 🙂 Great minds think alike right?
Post # 9
I’m not trying to be snarky here but if my friend tried to make me order a new dress after I fell in love with and ordered a wedding dress I think that would seriously dent our friendship. I wouldn’t want to hang out with them for a while, wouldn’t change my dress, and definitely wouldn’t share ANY more wedding details with them.
Dresses are like chairs at weddings. Unless you’re the bride or you’re looking at the pictures no one really remembers what they looked like more than just a general shape. No one will notice it’s the same dress. Especially if you accessorize it different, which sounds like the case.
I think its really great, actually, that you both fell in love with the same dress. Millions of dresses out there and you both found this magnificent dress.
Can we see pics?
Post # 10
I don’t think she should have to order a new dress. You both deserve to wear the dress you each love – even if it happens to be the same one.
You guys will look completely different in them. I had 2 friends wear the same dress and the only reason I noticed they were the same dress is because it was Maggie Sottero Kendra which I also tried on and loved. They wore different colors and had different accesories, so it was tough to tell they were the same (other from the amazing Kendra train!)
Post # 11
@MeiFrancis: Her wedding is first shes getting married in July and Im in September. We basically have the exact same bridesmaids, with the exception of 3 different ones.
Post # 12
@Bunny82: Our group of girl friends is very close and always have been all through high school and the years after, we all ahve a lot of the same taste when it comes to planning and details. we have another one of our girls getting married in june as well and we are in her wedding also. lol i know its a crazy time for us but fun. We all wanted blue bridesmaids and almost the same flowers.. its just nuts but we are all just that close, but never did i think it would come down to us finding the same dress. two of us are still doing ble where one ended up changin to green for BM which will change our flower colors… lol its kind of funny.
Post # 13
@Chlso823: The weddings are pretty close together. Since hers is first, if it really bothers you then It will have to you that goes for a different dress. You can’t ask her to change her dress, especially if she doesn’t mind. You will just have to think about what you want. Crappy situation to be in 🙁
Post # 14
@Chlso823: LOL hopefully the third bride doesn’t pick out the same dress too!! It could be worse. Instead of absolutely loving everything about your wedding and having similar items in theirs, they could totally sharpshoot everything and make you feel bad about your decisions. I hate when that happens on SYTTD where the bride LOVES a dress and her friends rip it to shreds.
You are going to look totally beautiful and totally you at your wedding. She will look totally beautiful and totally her on her wedding day. No one will know you’re in the same dress until you tell them in a funny story later on 🙂
Blue is a flexible color. Blue could be a nautical wedding, peacock feather wedding, winter wedding, etc. I think it will turn out fine. You also have the added benefit of when you find things you don’t think are right for your wedding but still totally love the thing you can pass it to her and see if she’ll like it for hers and vice versa! That could be really fun!
Post # 15
To be honest, I think people will notice, but I don’t think they will care.
The most gracious people find a way to see some humour in any awkward situation.
This will be a great story for the two of you to tell in years to come.
Neither of you has the right to expect that the other will change their dress. You have both already committed money to the purchase.
If you are so bothered by the duplicate dress, you are the one who should change your dress, not expect it of her.
Post # 16
THANK YOU ALL FOR HONEST OPINIONS AND FEEDBACK.
I think I was just in shock, and wanted it to be my dress. I got engagd first annd bought it and everything, then she just got engaged bought a dress 6 days after and then booked her wedding day before ours. Which is fine its just now everyone will see her in it first and then at my wedding be like, “OMG thats the same dress” I just dont want that to happen.
I guess I will wait until my dres scomes in and see how all the custom changes and the color really are. Im in love with this dress and it took me 7 weeks to find it and pick out a dress. I went to 4 different bridal shops where as she only tried on 6 dresses at one place and then ordered it right after trying it on.