Post # 1
Please tell me other Bees have felt this at some point? Planning this wedding has been riddled with stress, to the point where I am actually terrified of my wedding day.
During our 11 month engagement: My Dad was diagnosed with Cancer, FI lost his job, we discovered termites in our house and we had to use our honeymoon savings to fix it, we’ve had multiple cases of infidelity in the bridal party leading to 2 groomsmen dropping out, bridesmaids fighting to the point where I have had to cancel any pre-wedding parties (hens night, etc), and I feel more like this wedding is someone elses due to the amount I’ve had to change it to satisfy over-opinionated family members.
The stress of the whole thing means that I havent been able to focus on the detail, and now 3 weeks out from the wedding there is still so much not yet done. I’m scared people will judge it as a “disorganised mess” of a wedding. I’m also second guessing every decision i’ve made, I feel like i’m going bi-polar. Help?!
Post # 3
Wow! That’s a lot to go through and kudos to you for hanging in the way you are! You are a tough cookie! Just rememeber this…the day is all about you and your FI. It is about the love and happiness you have together. That will make however the day occurs…perfect. No one will judge your day…and if they do…they really shouldn’t been invited. Everything will fall into place. Think of the important things….the love you share and the time and memories with family. That is what you will remember at the end of the day anyways…not what favors or no favors were distributred, not if something was out of place…etc. Life isn’t perfect and having a wedding can hardly ever run flawless to schedule…so, just embrace the day and think happy thoughts!!! Good luck!!!
Post # 4
@MrsDinosaur: You have been through a lot, and I agree, You are a strong woman!
You will have your dad with you-yes?
You will have your groom with you-yes?
You will have your most loyal friends with you-yes?
You will have food and drink for your guests -yes?
You will be married at the end of the day-yes?!
Now-everyone likes a pretty wedding, what 3 top priorities for your wedding decor will make you smile? Can you or with some help able to manage to finish those 3 details? Now let the rest go!
I wish you all the happiness in the world on your wedding day. And even more for all of the rest of your life together.
Post # 5
@Forever23: Thank you 🙂 Sometimes its easy to get caught up in the details.
Post # 6
@creativeplannertobee: You are right – as long as those major things are there people shouldnt notice the detail
Post # 7
@MrsDinosaur: I hope that helps! Anything else?