- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Long story short, there’s a guy at work who’s made everyone’s lives hell for months. He’s lazy, spiteful, cruel, judgemental, he’s said several homophobic, racist and just totally out of line comments in recent times. Everyone in the office has a problem with this guy, although it’s never reached the point of an argument.
Anyway, if you’d held a gun to my head and asked me to pick out one thing I like about him, it’d be his dedication to his wife. He’s always been willing to drop everything at a moment’s notice and go way overboard to make her happy. It’s the one thing I admire about a man who otherwise is extremely nasty to me.
Well, to get to the point, his wife came in today and major drama unfolded – and we all found out he’s been cheating on his wife. It’s unbelievably awkward at work now; everyone kind of decided to not talk about it and to be very quiet around him so nobody puts their foot in it – if you set him off he can yell for hours, and if he is really upset then nobody wants to be the cause of that.
Looks like his marriage is quite possibley over.
And bees, for the life of me I cannot figure out why, but this makes me incredibly sad. Sad that the only thing I liked about this guy turned out to not be true, sad that all the times he’s been a pain at work is because he was betraying his wife, sad that someone who’s been married for years and years can suddenly just… do that.
I feel so heartbroken for his wife. I don’t blame her for a thing and frankly think she reacted very well to very awful news. I’ve now accepted the fact that he’s just as bad as I thought. I dread the thought of seeing him again next week and how awkward and stilted it’s going to be. I’m worried I won’t be able to view him objectively any more knowing how much he’s hurt the woman he promised to ‘love and cherish’.
And the thing is, this has nothing to do with me. Nothing. It’s not my business. I don’t have the right to judge him and believe me, I know that. And I’m not going to say a word to him, or anyone, about how sad this makes me.
But hey, this is Weddingbee! If there’s anywhere I can express my sadness and be understood, it’s here. I just needed somewhere to rant and rave and go off on one.