(Closed) Major drama regarding the rehearsal dinner.

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Wow. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. My suggestion is to talk to your parents about your desire to invite your sister. Tell your parents you have considered her feelings, but you have decided it’s really important for you to have your sister in your wedding. You can even tell them you know this may not be a decision that they are happy with, but you hope they will consider your feelings and put the past behind them so that your wedding can be as happy an occassion as possible. And you can even mention that if it’s a serious issue for them you will understand their need to bow out and you will plan to pay for the dinner yourself. I would present it as their choice to participate in your celebration. Remind them that they are your parents and you love them, but also that this wedding is about you and your Fiance.

Post # 4
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow that was said excellently, blayne.  Absolutely perfect. 

Your mother sounds like a very controlling person, but sometimes she needs to be denied “getting her way”, and this is one of those times.  You’re a very good person to have reconciled with your estranged sister, and you should be getting kudos for doing so, not melodrama.  I come from a (very) broken family as well, on both sides, and long story short, my mother won’t even be at my wedding at all, and the majority of the guests are from my FI’s side.  But you know what?  It’s a day about him and I, and nobody else is going to screw things up with their immature hangups.  Don’t let your mother’s threats get you in a tizzy and definitely don’t let it ruin your big day!  Be the adult in this situation and let her steam over your sister being a part of your wedding, as she should be!

Post # 5
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

As a side thing, you could always ask your mother if she’s the same person that she was 20 years ago. I doubt your sister is. And it was unfair of your mother to teach you to hate your sister. I’m sorry for that.

Anyhoo, I think blayne07 said it very well. This is your decision they may not like it, but they’re expected to respect it. Ball is in their court.

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