(Closed) MAJOR in-law issue – HELP

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Earplugs and sleeping pills?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How many bendryls are you taking? You can take up to two. I have taken two before and it works for me.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@starrynight:  I sometimes use Tylenol PM and it seems to help a lot. I think there are also some OTC sleep aids that you can find at a pharmacy, but I’ve never tried those.

As for advice, you won’t like this, but I do think you need to suck it up. Your hosts should be more accomodating, but since they aren’t, you have to respect the fact that they are your husband’s family and it’s important to him to spend holidays with them. Not getting enough sleep is uncomfortable, but I think it’s something you should be willing to endure because it’s important to your husband.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

try Benadryl and melatonin that can safely be mixed and should help you sleep

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have checked into a *single* hotel room the minute my husband said the word “bitch”. That sort of name calling is totally unacceptable between husband and wife.

Failing that, stay in bed until you get enough sleep. Feign illness if need be. But really, if they are rude enough to keep you awake until 3am, I see no problem in returning the rudeness and checking into a hotel, at least for one night.

p.s. This sounds to me like a husband problem, not an in-law problem. Calling you a “bitch” and not standing up for you.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

There are these headphones .. logi tech’s that are chordless .. you can set your ipod/tv whatever to listen to nice ocean waves and block it all out.  Our family is up early but those hours you mentioned are INSANE. 

Maybe you should present it as .. you and hubs could get the hotel room… you two can relax, cuddle and rekindle the romance …

If not.. i’d take a bendyrl and just lay my head down and go to sleep.  There is a line that you are being a pampered spoiled brat and seriously NOT getting sleep. you aren’t getting sleep, hosts should make you feel welcome. 

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@starrynight:  No offense, but what a douche for threatening divorce. I also think it sounds like a husband problem. He should be a little more supportive and you should also try to be with his family. I believe a good compromise can be achieved.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@starrynight:  I think that this is pretty obvious emotional abuse. No matter how you are acting, he has NO right to call you a bitch. Also, he shouldn’t be threatening to divorce you over you simply wanting to take care of yourself.  I hope you can see what a douche he is being and learn to take care of you! 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

How far away from his family are you? How often do they get together? This sounds normal to me if they hardly see each other. My parents live in a different city to the rest of their families and what you’re describing is exactly what I remember it being like when we visited them as kids. My mom and her sisters would stay up until all hours of the morning, every night catching up even if they weren’t loud. 

My bet is that by night three you’ll be so exhausted you will pass out regardless of the noise and as for the next day – make caffeine your friend. 

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