- 5 years ago
(I hope I’m posting this in the right place, as this is definitely NOT wedding related)
My sister is driving me absolutely crazy. She is 11 years older than me, has a husband and a 3 year old. She calls me EVERY SINGLE DAY, which would be fine but… she keeps me on the phone for 3-4 HOURS at a time.
Her conversations start with current events, and they always lead into crap she hasn’t forgiven my parents for, from when she was 18/in college/in high school…I feel like I’m her therapist or something. I can’t handle it anymore. I’ve heard the same exact story more than 300 times.
Her husband is currently going to school and working, so he’s gone 12-15 hours a day. She’s left home alone with no car, and with my niece.. so I understand she’s lonely and bored but… I can’t do this anymore.
I’ve started completely ignoring her calls, and her texts.. and then maybe 1-2 times a week, I give in and talk to her.
Last time I tried to get off the phone with her by saying “I have to go now, I need to go pick up (the BF) from work and we’re going to work out.” She kept me on the phone for ANOTHER 30 mins asking me “What are you making for dinner? What are you doing this weekend?” etc etc etc.
I have no idea how to confront her, because she’s just NUTS. She’s fine with confronting other people and telling them off, but when SHE gets told off, she guilt trips me.
In the past, when I’ve “confronted her” I’ve said: “Look, I need to work on my blog today. I’m taking photos of a recipe, so I’ll be busy.” And she texted me EVERY 1/2 HOUR “Are you done yet?” “It’s been 2 hours, ARE YOU DONE YET???”
And now since Facebook lets you see the last time your friends have been online, she’ll send me texts that say “Oh so you have time to go on Facebook but you cant talk to me??”
(Edited: I forgot to add that once in awhile, she’ll text me something like “Dad is in the hospital.” and I’ll frantically call her, just to find out “Oh yeah he’s getting a colonoscopy…” she’ll do it just so I call her. Which is just freaking SICK. I can’t even believe she’d do that to me. She’s done it multiple times too.)
HELP. ADVICE. PLEASE. I have no ideas how to approach this, or what to say to her. Also, I have no idea how I’m busier than she is, and she has a freaking 3 year old. Sigh.