- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
The past four and half years I have held a mid-level job in the non-profit sector. Throughout my career with this organization, I have remained extremely dedicated thus gaining respect and responsibility. I am able to multi-task, manage other staff members and strive in a high stress environment. I have graciously recieved multiple pay raises. Recently I have been recognized by the CEO as an excellent team player. Despite all this, no promotion as of yet.
A position was recently posted for another job in my department. I knew in my bones I would be great for it. Finally this was the golden opportunity I needed! This position would mean more responsibility, more money and would be a game-changer. I seized the opportunity and applied. My interview went great! It was truly a great experience which I left feeling proud of. I sent a lovely hand-written thank you card to my supervisor and anxiously waited for their word.
Anyhow, I heard through the grape-vine that one of my employees was also going for this open position. This girl is smart and sweet. However, she has had a hard time managing the even smallest of daily responsibilities let alone getting to work on time. Also she has worked for the company for a year; this is only her second job and is still in college. She has been written up in the past couple of months for her near constant Facebook use. Needless to say I didn’t see her as much of a competition.
A week later I received an e-mail from my supervisor regretfully informing me that I was not chosen to fill the position. She mentioned I should come in to speak with her later that day. When I met with my supervisor said she was really impressed with me and eventually wants create a new job for me. However, this job will take many months to create and mums the word. Although our meeting was positive I don’t know how sincere her promise was.
Later that day I found who exactly was chosen for the position… guess who? The smart, sweet, still in college, perpetually twenty minutes late Facebook girl. Although I am happy for her a piece of me is totally devastated. I make a daily commitment to go above and beyond and I feel betrayed that they have chosen somebody who simply gets by. I am just so angry and hurt that they would have passed me up for her. I guess it’s just a huge blow to my ego. I haven’t allowed it to wreck havoc on my work performance but I would be lying if I hadn’t shed a tear over this stupid situation.
How do I move on emotionally from this with grace and professionalism? Has anyone else experienced any professional blow like this? How did you cope?