Major venue dilemma…HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which venue should I pick?
    Hometown venue, 4- 6hr drive away but on a Saturday : (13 votes)
    31 %
    Closer to home, 0-2 hrs drive away but on a Friday : (29 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @futurejhart:  I voted closer to home because we chose a venue far away from most of my family…who were unable to come. It was heartbreaking for me.

    Post # 4
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    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I voted closer to home – six hours is a fair distance away even if you aren’t elderly. 

    Is it a plane or a car drive away? 

    Post # 5
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    703 posts
    Busy bee

    @futurejhart:  can you do up a list of who won’t be able to make it to the further away destination? If you can’t imagine your wedding without them then don’t do it. if it doesn’t bother you than go for it. A wedding is really about the ppl that are there not the venue. I’m having my wedding around 1-3 hour drive from everybody. I’m doing it deliberately, we have huge families and i want to weed out the ppl that would just go for the sake of it and complain anyway!

    Post # 6
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    You’d have to be my best friend or close family for me to drive 4 hours for your wedding. I think you will have painfully low numbers that far away.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @futurejhart:  2 hours on a Friday is essentially asking someone to take the day off. A 4 – 6 hour drive is a schelp, but at least you can drive up, spend the night on Saturday, hang out on Sunday and make a weekend of it. 

    The Friday weddings I’ve heard about have all been pretty small. I was invited to a 7:00 pm Friday wedding, RSVP’ed maybe (the bride and I talked about it) and by the time my flight landed, at 8:30, the wedding was over. 

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @futurejhart:  If I just had to take the day off, not a big deal, but taking the day off and spending 8 hrs of that day driving? Not only is it a day off but very likely to take up my whole Saturday as well (assuming i stay the night). You might be ensuring that the people who come are the ones who really want to be there, and that’s not a bad thing. but I do believe there will be people who say yikes, can’t do it. I do know exactly how you feel, we are having our wedding on a Thursday which has not been a popular choice with the “crowd” but we saved a lot of money on venue fees! And still sending out 150+ invites but expecting around 85 or 90 realistically. 

     

    Post # 12
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @futurejhart:  Can any of the in-laws or your parents host? How bout the maid of honor? We own our home so are able to have a welcome “open house” with food & drink after rehearsal instead of a rehearsal dinner. But my mother offered to host it, too. We are getting ready in the church but another option was using a hotel room of a close family member who came in from out of town. 

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