Post # 1
So this is just a little rant. I have not worked in a year and since losing my job, my finace’s two teenagers have moved in greatly reducing his take home pay. I had no ideas weddings cost so much. Seriously, feeding 100 people will cost us around $8,000?! We are in the process of saving for a house too.
We wanted our wedding to be about 200 people, but we have cut it in half and may cut it even more. Many of the venues we simply cannot afford. I have been looking for work for the past 6 months. Should I just say, “Forget it!’ and get married at the courthouse? His parents are not giving up a dime and mine are on a fixed income. I have been looking for work for the past six months.
I would LOVE one of these no financial limit wedding planners to work with a budget like mine! We are looking at $6,000 for everything and my finace does not want to spend that much. I am creative and willing to do A LOT myself, decorations, emailed save the dates/invitations, sew my own dress, etc… Sometimes, I just want to give up!
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope something will work out for you. I would try to DIY as much as I can and apply to be on a wedding show to be compensated (like My Fair Wedding because it is free).
Post # 4
You can TOTALLY have a lovely wedding on $6000! If you do a simple search on WeddingBee, you will see tons of posts with tips on how to budget and cut costs. Plus, if you google it, there are tons of blogs and articles about how to save money.
The way we calculated it, we had a $20k wedding for $10k. If you just ask vendors, most of the time they will give you discounts. Sometimes, very, very large ones.
Post # 5
My wedding budget is 6,000.
There are so many options out there that you might not realize are available. I am doing my reception at a restaurant in a private room so I don’t have to worry about renting the venue, tables, chairs, etc. It is $20 per person, without alcohol ( haven’t received pricing for it yet). Time of day may also make a large difference, mine qualifies for the lunch hour food and rate, which is only $14 per person. In addition I am cutting out a lot of things that I don’t really feel matter in the grand scheme of things: centerpieces, dj (using ipod), real flowers, etc.
Also those who cannot contribute financially may be able to with services, like making a cake or food. You can do it backyard style and have some family and friends prepare the food. There are many ways to save.
Just remember, if your financial future is so unsteady right now, spending the money on a single day may not be you best plan of action. I suggest researching all outlets and options.
Post # 6
@MrsCypresstobe: You can do a lot with a 6K budget. You can take on a lot of DIY projects, invites, centerpieces, church decor, etc. Your main costs will probably be food but you can even cut down on that by doing heavy finger foods instead of a full meal. Instead of having an open bar you can find a place that lets you bring your own and just do wine and beer.
My main advice would be to sit down with your FI and decide which things are MOST important to you on your big day. For me, I want to make sure that we LOOK like a bride and groom and photography. Everything else to me is extra. You can always cut the guest list even more and do a more intimate wedding/reception (FI and I are only inviting immediate family and a few of our closest friends) and then throw a more casual bbq later.
The ‘bee has tons of ideas and DIY tutorials to help you through the process. If you start now, you will have plenty of time to do a lot yourself.
Post # 7
Thank you laides so much for the inspiration! I feel so much better already! Y’all rock!
Post # 8
@MrsCypresstobe: first congrats on your engagement and welcome to the bee! Second, your budget is totally doable!!!!! You just have to be creative and figure out what’s important. You can do lots of DIY projects and research research research. The more I look for a photographer, the more that come up that are willing to work with the budget I set for photography.
What kind of venues are you looking at? What kind of wedding do you want? While it’s nice to want to invite 200 people, it might be realistic on an $8000 budget UNLESS you talk to every possible caterer in town and find an option for $20/plate which is possible! The more and more people I talk to the more and more I find vendors at the price I want. So just don’t give up after the first top 5 vendors tell you that it’s $100/plate, $5000 for photography,ect.
OH! Also, don’t mention the word wedding! I called a limo company and got a different price for a limo for prom/wedding/night out with friends. All had a 5 hour min. but the wedding was the most expensive!
Post # 9
Im having my wedding for $4000 – and so far I havent sacrificed anything 🙂 Im doing alot of DIY projects and search endlessly for the best deals. Also, talk to every vendor about getting you a deal. they are more willing to help than you think. good luck! i hope your day is perfect.
Post # 10
I agree with all the posters…you can have a wonderful wedding if you do as much DIY and keep it simple. Don’t use flowers, buy a dress that is not a wedding gown (bridesmaids, formal), pick time of day or day of the week that will give you a discount, trim the guest list. Trust me once you begin to only include those that are really close to you, it is easy.
Don’t give up. Good luck!
Post # 11
Please don’t be discouraged. I’m right there with you. I’ve told my self a million times, Its about the marriage [but I struggle with knowing I’m not going get everything I “think” I want for the wedding day] Back in May I was in tears on another board because I knew my fiancees did not equal my vision (my draft list had 120+ invites).
I was prepared to do a super simple, small ceremony (of less than 15 ppl) at a local park then go to restaurant for the reception. My plan was to have a larger reception on the one year anniversary. Unfortunately, we have been dealing with some major family issues, so we’ve had to put everything on pause. And to be honest I didn’t want to have to deal with this issue again in another year anyway. So now we’d like to just try to do it one time albeit smaller (50-75ppl).
I refuse to go in debt for one day. You have prioritize whats important. Photorgraphy and music are my high priorities. Unless my finances hit a major jackpot, I know i’m goimg to have to heartlessly compromise on cutting back on the other unnecessary wedding porn (do I really need programs, using seasonal flowers etc).
I’m amazed at the creativeness that other budget brides and look at these blogs and articles, like those below, for inspiration:
http://www.apracticalwedding.com/ – The section on Wedding Graduates is truly the best to help keep things that matter inperspective.
Post # 12
oh! Check out http://www.2000dollarwedding.com
That will put your wedding into perspective. I read the blog often to remind myself that the wedding isn’t about colored and personalized cocktail napkins.
Post # 13
@MrsCypresstobe: Sounds so much like my situation. I had to give up my dream venue today because it really is more than we could afford. Could you find a place to host your ceremony and reception and where you could cater your own food. We found that that combo would be the cheapest. We just haven’t found that in South Florida.
Post # 14
My wedding is $1000 or less. I can’t see spending $4000-$6000. My wedding is very very very very low budget. I hope it all works out for, I’m stuggling with the job thing my self.
Post # 15
Budget brides: Are you homeowners? I attended a backyard wedding that was MARVELOUS!
Post # 16
Check out the bridesmaid and prom dress sections at the formal dress and bridal salons. Some of them reallllly look more to me like wedding gowns if they come in white….
Also, Macy’s, Dilliard’s, even Nordstrom’s, etc. has chic dresses!! A $250-300 BCBG or Michael Kors dress might be RIDICULOUS just to buy, but if it’s in white and it’s your wedding dress, that’s a STEAL!!!