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As long as no one has put any money down I would keep looking... 4 out of 5 isn't a very good ratio.
I can see why you're conflicted. I wouldn't choose one that your BM with body issues hates, as that will just look bad. One REALLY unhappy BM will stand out versus all of your BMs being fairly happy, albeit not SUPER happy, about their dress.
That being said, keep looking if none of them really like it! I would look yourself first, that way if you end up thinking this one will be fine there are no issues. :)
Also - is it the empire waist that she liked? Or something different? Find out what she liked about that dress and go from there!
The problem is that we need to order the dress ASAP since the wedding is only 4 months away. She likes the flowy kind where as the other girls like the more fitted type. I personally care more about her feeling comfortable in it than the actual dress. I don't know if this is fair to the other girls tho. But I know how kind hearted they all are and will wear pretty much anything to make me happy.
@mcj040916: have you considered doing the mismatched thing, find a designer that makes a bunch of dresses with a similar color and cut and just have each girl choose the one that she likes/ works for her body the best?
BTW, just wanted to share. My girls all happily agreed on a certain AA dress really quickly. It's chiffon (so flowy) and empire waisted, but it's got straps and some other support/detail. They range from a size 0 to a size 18, so I was pretty shocked. I was prepared to go the mismatched dress route, but they all liked the same one! PM me if you want the style number and I'll go look it up. I can't remember it off the top of my head.
my bridesmaids sizes 4-to 18 and they picked this in plum.http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Gown-with-Side-Drape-Brooch-8567_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses
The mismatched dresses might be good for you in this case. Give them a colour and let them pick something that flatters each one individally. You could put some guidelines to cleavage/length etc and ask for final say just so that you are happy with their choices
IMO you can ask for their opinions but if you know what you envisioned don't give them a choice. I didn't...
Thanks for the comments. I think I will end up keeping the dress but letting them make changes to them to fit their own personalities (adding/removing strap, making it more fitted, etc...). I rather have them feeling comfortable in a dress they chose, than feeling miserable in a dress I chose. Besides, I think it might be too late to go dress shopping again. And i know they will look beautiful in whatever they wear. Besides, day of the wedding, people will be focused on me (I hope) lol =P
Do you still have time to go shopping with them ? I personnally like the dress, but if your girls dont than maybe it would be nice to go shopping again :)
I think the dress is nice! Honestly it's rare that bridesmaids are going to "love" a BM dress--it's just not the style unfortunately!
@maudemaisha: They will be going in to get fitted tomorrow. I wished they would've said something the day the choose the dress rather than wait a few days before ordering them. And I doubt we can all make the time to go dress shopping again.
@All In: Thats what I thought! These are 5 girls with different taste, different bodies, and different budget, so how can I expect them all to LOVE the same dress. Dont get me wrong, I dont have a problem with the dress. And I am hoping that accessories and all will make it look even better
Hmm can I suggest a totally different direction for all body types?: flowy chiffon like from Bill Levkoff. I just think it would work so much better:
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/162
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/159
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/164
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/165
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/674
http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/675
I just think flowy-ness would be forgiving on waist areas and they would all love them
Our BM dresses cinched at the waist and then just flowed to right above their knee. My girls were not all the same size, and it was super flattering on everyone because the size you were past your waist didn't matter! Maybe look for something like that?
@dashwoodgirl: thanks for the suggestions! All these dresses are super cute. I will give them the option of choosing a different style but same fabric and color. Besides, I thinnk the chiffon will work good for a summer wedding. Not too heavy and yet still elegant.
i definitely think you should go for the mismatched look for your girls. that way your one BM who likes the dress can still wear it, and the other girls can get dresses that look good/make them feel good!
Keep looking! You should be able to find something or maybe even be open to letting them pick different styles of the same color and line to help them find something they all love!
@phoenixandstars: I sent them all an email giving them the option to choose another style aslong as the color and fabric was the same. They all emailed me that they all wanted to keep the one they already choose. So I'm going to leave it like it is. I dont think I can handle any more stress at the time.
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So I dont exactly like the dress my bridesmaids choose. Although I do not hate the dress, it is something I wouldn't have choosen. But it seems like it was the closest they were all going to agree on. One of my bridesmaids is chubby and has a very low self esteem when it comes to her body. So I feel like all the other bridesmaid choose the dress based on what she felt comfortable in. And I love my girls for doing that. I really want all of them to feel comfortable in their dress.
Well, from all 5 bridesmaids, 4 of them have individually told me they werent "in love" with the dress. Including my chubby BM. They all said the dress is "just OK". So what should I do? Pick a dress I like and make them wear it? Or stay with the dress they already choose since it looks good on all of them and they are all willing to wear it although its not their first choice?
Heres a pic of the dress. It will be in the color eggplant.