(Closed) Makes me sad

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Sad, but I guess it’s time to let go. She made her choice. 

Post # 4
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am sorry you are going through this. I went through something similar and I had to end my friendship with her. She still tries to contact me but that friendship is gone.

I think that you opened your heart to her by invitng her to your wedding and contacting her. If she refuses to return your calls and wont go to your wedding. I say move on. To me a friend understands that life keeps us busy and just because you dont hear from them for a few weeks or so, the friendship if it is real and true will stand the test of time. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re right, she hasn’t forgotten about the RSVP, she’s ignoring it.  Maybe it’s for the best because she strikes me as the type who would write a nasty message along with her “No” when sending it, and that’s the last thing you need.

From the way you’ve decribed the scenario, she’s in the wrong for wanting to end your friendship, but what is there for you to do about it?  You can’t convince her to remain friends.  If she doesn’t want to stay in contact casually, then that’s her prerogative, no matter how silly it might seem to you or me.

Don’t feel bad about unfriending etc…  Sometimes people come and go from our lives, and it sounds like it’s time for this one to go.

Post # 7
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Woodstock:  Honestly I’m surprised that she hasn’t unfriended you yet, considering her attitude towards you.  It makes me suspect that she’s only keeping you on her list so that she has access to your pics/newsfeed etc… in order to keep tabs on you, or make snarky comments (either in her head, or to others).

I had a “frenemy” on fb for quite a while.  We had a falling out years before due to her telling a guy I was dating that I had herpes (which I don’t… I also know enough about it to know that it’s not that scary, and extremely common, but I digress).  In the ensuing fallout from her lies, I cut off ties.  

Fastforward about 5 years and our mutual friend is having a baby, and asks that we bury the hatchet for the sake of us all celebrating, and being a part of the baby’s life.  So I friended her, and we acted civilly to eachother.  Or at least I did.  Turns out she would cruise my pics all the time and say nasty things about me to mutual friends, culminating with her calling my engagement ring “a piece of junk” and predicting that I’d be divorced within a year.

I unfriended her.  It felt great.

You don’t owe this girl anything.  Get rid of the daly reminders of exactly how much she sucks.

Post # 8
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

1+ agreed with the rest of the ladies!

Post # 9
1519 posts
Bumble bee

That’s annoying. I’m sorry! Obviously she’s very immature.

Post # 10
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Has the RSVP date passed yet?

Post # 12
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Good for you deleting the negative energy from your life.

Post # 13
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Woodstock:  Hey! That is good that you got a response, albeit annoyingly roundabout. You are totally justified in unfriending her on FB. I had a falling out with an old friend several years ago and eventually I ended up blocking her on FB because she was super passive-aggressive and was always popping up in my feed. Everytime I saw her name I would feel a little anxiety/stress. You don’t need that! It is hard when friendships end and people change, but it is also part of life. You went above and beyond by inviting her to your wedding and reaching out for her RSVP. I would take this as the final indication that yep, its time to move on. Enjoy your day and focus on all the friends who do care and are happy for you!

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