- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Evening, ladies! I have a bit of a bind and I would like some input. I am afraid of being flamed for this, but oh well. We can’t all be perfect always.
So long story short, I contacted a makeup artist for myself because I suck at makeup and don’t ever wear it/have no idea what I am doing. I presented the option of getting their makeup professionally done to my girls but told them up front that it was not presently in my budget to pay for all three of them to have their makeup done, that they would have to pay for it on their own if they wished to have it done.
One BM completely ignored me (I messaged all 3 on FB – they all have different schedules, so it’s the best way to get them all in one place where ideas can be discussed – I know she saw it, though), one said “Let me think about it” and the final one (my MoH) said her skin was sensitive and she’d prefer to use her own makeup. I also presented the idea to FMIL and FSIL, who both declined as well.
Fast forward to the trial, my mom and I both love our makeup, so my “maybe” BM said she was definitely thinking of it after seeing our pictures and she would talk to her husband about their budget so she could pay for it. She has rosacea and wants it to be well covered so she’s not red faced in all of our pictures. Okay, sure. Since everyone else had said no/ignored me, I offered to pay for this ONE person because the MUA has a 3 girl minimum and BM would make my 3rd – my mom and myself being the other 2. I can add an extra $75 to my budget. I can’t add an extra $225.
MUA later told MoH that she could put her makeup on for her, and MoH was very excited and said “Sure, if it wouldn’t be too much trouble!” and left it at that. Price was not discussed. I just learned today that it would cost the same amount for MUA to put MoH’s own makeup on her as it would for my BM to get hers done. I don’t really want to pay $75 for MUA to put MoH’s OWN makeup on her OWN face…
MoH does not know I offered BM to pay for hers, as everyone had declined up to that point. I am sort of feeling like I should pay for MoH’s makeup as well, even though I told everyone up front I could not pay for everyone. The BM that has completely ignored the makeup message on FB (I know she saw it, mind you), has still ignored me and has not given an answer, so I am taking it as a no. MoH does not know that it would be the same price for the makeup application. I have not texted her to discuss it with her yet because I am not sure if I should pay for it or have her pay for it. The only reason I offered to pay for BM #3’s makeup is bc I needed a 3rd person for the minimum and everyone had originally said no. I can’t really afford to pay for both, because that will inevitably turn into paying for all 3.
So how bout it, bees? Should I go ahead and pay for #3 because I said I would and ask MoH to front her own? Should I pay for both? Should I discuss with BM#3 and tell her what has happened and see if she is still willing to pay for her own, as she was in the beginning?
Please don’t flame me and say that it’s my day and I want my girls to look a certain way so I should pay for it. That is not the case, I extended the offer and was honest about the cost up front – whether they do their own or not is really no matter to me. FMIL and FSIL and I assume the BM that ignored me will be doing their own. I don’t really care. I just wanted them to have the option up front if that was something they’d be into. Also, I am paying for everyone’s hair to be done – again, they’re picking their own styles (I’m not demanding a specific style) and I’m paying for that.
Advice or tips would be welcomed. Thanks!